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Yes ... some thoughts are (from what has been posted) is that the father's shortcomings are correctable and has the support system for that endeavor.  At the same time it appears both mothers on the flip side of this child have more severe and long lasting life long problems that may not be easily combated thus putting this child in a very percarious way.

Hoping and expecting that all goes well for this innocent child.

Thanks for being there and all you do !!   

This is for your consideration.  I highly recommend you only go forward with an attitude/belief in thought and speech that "children need both parents" and further that the children are to be immediately returned to their home.  Of course the mother can depart if she so chooses and IT IS BETTER FOR THE CHILDREN THAT SHE DO SO.

At the same time, the mother will have access to the children in their home and their home will serve as the foundation for providing their needs and care.  Both parents are called upon to make decisions together for the children without interference from third parties.

In the current situation,  the mother is CLEARLY EXPLOITING the children to their very existence and to their short and long term detriment while promoting her self-serving ego and welfare.

It might be helpful to consider if a father was acting out in the very fashion as this mother.         

Geesh !  I do not understand.

Is it OK with them if I post about "kids being incarcerated" for defending themselves.

CHILDREN NEED BOTH PARENTS !!

Even though you have explained the wrongness you have endured you have made wrong choices for yourself and especially your children.  The legal documents you may receive will claim you have dirty hands for abscounding with the children across state lines in order to remove the children from the left-behind parent and gain favorable rulings in a foriegn forum of your choosing.

By doing so you have put you family case under the control of a National Act known as the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act
(UCCJEA originally the UCCJA; 1069) along with the a Federal act known as the Parental Kidnapping Preventiion Act (PKPA; 1981).   Please search the archives on this site or Google the internet.

I know it may appear ridiculous for the FL atty/counselor to request you not hire an attorney but it was the most rational item you posted.  Please consider working together with the Dad thru one FL atty because
CHILDREN NEED BOTH PARENTS !!

BTW, FL (the home state) will have jurisdiction over ALL matters as long as the left behind parent remains a resident of FL .  In my case the home state judge divided our property in the foreign (abscounded to state) much to their amazement. 

And ... "Greetings"

You may want to ask for a reconsideration concerning your VA Disability compensation.  The statue reads (in part) as follows :

    "Payments of benefits due or to become due under any law administered by the Secretary shall not be assignable except to the extent specifically authorized by law, and such payments made to, or on account of, a beneficiary shall be exempt from taxation, shall be exempt from the claim of creditors, and shall not be liable to attachment, levy, or seizure by or under any legal or equitable process whatever, either before or after receipt by the beneficiary. "

The statue (since 1987) is clear that VA Disability payments are to be considered when the Disabled Veteran is the "payor".  However, in the case at hand, it appears that a non-veteran payee MAY be using this compensation amount to lower the obligation to the children.

If this did happen,  there is commentary that this could very well be an  honest error among attorneys, judges, etc.   (ie maintaining the status quo)

I think this is worth checking out.

 

Along with the WARNING at the top of this thread let me first express thanks (probably Waylon) for the ressurrection of this thread.  I believe the driving force for posters on this site is to help others by giving advice from life experiences .... so it would naturally follow this thread to be "giving advice".

I considered the so-called "advice" a FARCE and a DEMAND to throw back to the days when mothers were awarded sole custody 97.5% of the time.   It is a request for a model of child abuse/neglect as well as both civil and criminal interference of the custody of children.

As previously posted the purposed thoughts and directions/tactics are at the very essence of why this board exists.

This father gained custody because he focused entirely on the well-being of the children (their entire lifes) and the enemy functioned in the purposed thoughts and tactics in this thread (plus).  My primary endeavor was against the system that allowed and promoted the absence of protecting the children.

WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU HAVE MY CHILDREN IN YOUR COUNTY JAIL for their own protection !?!?

We all know many of the unnecessary and often unspoken lasting pains children and parents were/are forced to endure in their depleted lives through no fault of their own. 

Could this thread please be revived ??

I saw the post yesterday requesting the removal of this subject matter and while the removal request was well intended it STILL REMAINS the purposed thoughts and directions/tactics are at the very essence of why this board exists.

We all know many of the unnecessary lasting pains children and parents were/are forced to endure in their depleted lives through no fault of their own. 

Many thanks to the creators of this internet site and the many contributors to it over the many years.       

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OK I think I'm beginning to understand this thread.

Dipper is the itsey bitsey spider.  "The itsey bitsey spider went up the waterspout.  Down came the rain and washed the spider out.  Out came the sun and dried up all the rain.  The itsey bitsey spider went up the spout again !!!".

I surmise that Dipper and family are trying desperately to negotiate "agreements" with an opposer(s) under the auspicies of "joint custody" because that is what "joint" demands and is a way to keep this father in the child's life at this time and forever.  The emphasis being it is best for the child that this happens.

Of course we are not familiar with the practices and policies of the system Dipper is operating in but I have always understood that a licensed attorney is an "officer of the court" and therefor requires a motion to the court for approval / disapproval  to dismiss from a case.  Reseach your state statues accordingly and try to to use the same generalized verbage in a written or oral motion.  Some prose' advocates would retain someone from the "Young Attorneys association" to blend into the court room then stand to announce representation replacement with a secret motion (ie wetting your lips, wiggling your ears or nostrils).  Try to exclude the large middle finger in any gesture since it has universally accepted connotations.   

Also, you may determine it appropriate to submit a hand written "order" (basically prepared in advance ) to the court for signature in real time after prevailing on your "Motion to Quash" the current order. I suspect a "pleading" for attorney fees (current or new) would be best obtained at a subsequent hearing from the matters at hand.

Just a note.  I (and others) would carry along Supreme Ct rulings governing self representation just in case a judge or officer of the court got testy.

Hope this helps.  And Dipper thanks for helping others over many years.  Best to your family. 

 
I'm thinking that if the mother is not in compliance with the current standing court order AND/OR using the innocent child to provoke, intimidate and harass the other parent attempting to redefine the other parent then they should pay for any relitigation as well as supervised during visitation periods. 

Let her know she is not above the law and that you and the child do not exist to promote her self serving ego.

Also, I would document the attorney's defiant communication but would not give IT with any behavior parameters.  I would also check the court's file folder for your case before the next hearing to determine if there are any motions, addidavits, etc for the court to address that you have not been given notice.

 
Try this :

  DH        -  Darling Husband
  DD        -  Darling Daughter
  DS        -  Darling Son

  PBFH     -  Psycho Bitch From Hell

  I think the Archives contains a complete list