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XGF and I have 2 1/2 yr old . At present I have supervised visits EOW and EO  Thurs. My parents are the supervisors.  Supervised bcause we didn't get along and she threatened alot of false allegations she had no proof of (I never hit anyone). We'll get that changed later. Anyway she was living with her parents with my son and her 6 yr old. She bought a house a yr ago but its got a long way to go to be redone.  Recently shes been calling more for babysitting. Found out she fighting with her parents and moved out. Staying in a hotel till house done with 2 kids and a boyfriend. Can she do this? Live in Illinois. She has legal custody of course.

I have a ?  Why was she allowed to take them out of state?

Since Nov08 I have had supervised visits with my 2 yr old every wkend and Wed. My parents are the supervisors. This is because of a RO she put on me in Oct08 from a false accusation. I have done things in the past that I am not proud of but no phisical abuse. Mostly damaged things in anger in my own home. She was very free with child till I got a lawyer. Then all of a sudden I am a danger. Anyway court is next week to finalize things and I want supervision dropped. BM told my mom yesterday that she is going to keep supervision and she has sent a visit propoal to my lawyer and if I  dont agree she will see to it the visits stop permanently with myself and my parents. We have had this boy at least 4-5 days/wk since he was born, either me or my parents if I was unavailable. She says she will testify to things she has no proof of and do not involve the child at all. I live in ILL. Is this possible?

In ILL do they look at both wages, BM makes $22/hr, I make $9/hr? Barely make enough to pay bills and eat myself.

she's asking for visits to be suspended on the grounds of neglect that I let child have a fever without medical care which led to pneumonia. The truth is when his fever hit 104, I called and took him home early so BM could seek care. Now he has had fever twice on her and neither time went to ER. She waited till next day and took him to Dr. Wish she would just cancel this because it's a waste of everyones time. I hope judges see through this stuff.

update; BM was taking me to court due to what she claims as negligence when child (2) came down with fever and I  took him home early so he could get medical care (another post)  Any way court was 2 wks ago and it was continued as her side didn't seem very prepared. They did ask 3 times for visits to be suspended pending next court (May) and the judge refused. Now since he has ran a fever twice on her and neither time did she take him to the ER.  She called thia AM and said he was sick yesterday with fever and vomiting and she made a Dr appt today. Could I have him tomorrow. Of cource I couldn't refuse. But the whole story is doesn't this blow her story to the courts? I have to miss a days work and lawyer fees for these stupid courts.

I just read on a site that joint custody is awarded in only 20% of cases, the mother is awarded sole in 70%, and the father awarded sole 10% in Illinois. The judge awards sole if there is even a hint that the parents do not get along. Said it saves being brought back into court later if there is something that cannot be agreed upon. Guess if she doesn't want to get along, she gets to chose. I will ask for it anyway.

when will this change take place?

I was told by my lawyer today that I probably won't get joint because the mother of my son would not  allow it. I am trying to get a schedule and holiday visits. Have not been to court on this yet as she keeps trying to get visits to stop for one reason or another. visitation suspension was denied today for the 3rd time It's only temp right now.  Why is my lawyer saying this? I am in Illinois

never married, have been established as father in court and temp visits, but as far as I know she is still legal till we are granted joint legal