I am not the primary parent for my children. I chose to give them up to their father, and I think that was the worst mistake I ever made. He doesn't include me in anything and I hear about important events from the kids after they happen. I have two boys, so I figured he would teach them to be men better than I could. Boy, was I wrong? Ever wish you could go back and make decisions again. My ex husband had an affair on me and kicked me out of the house and moved his new girlfriend in. I was homeless for a while, which is why I left the kids with him.