- Welcome to SPARC Forums.
Recent posts
#11
Father's Issues / Re: Looking for help.
Last post by ocean - Mar 26, 2021, 02:46:50 PMAre you seeing child at all yet? You are doing the right thing taking parenting classes. Get infant CPR trained if possible. Try not to email the lawyers too much or call them as you can see that all costs money. Sorry you are dealing with this during covid. Hopefully you can get into court and ask for temporary orders right away. Usually start with a few hours and work your way to full days/overnights. Giving mom sole custody is sometimes ok, IF you have a great parenting plan that details everything. Mom will do what she wants , agreement or not so sometimes you just have to choose your battles. Think about a parenting plan that will include what happens when child is in school (if you live in same district), holdiays, days off of school for child, birthdays for you and child, fathers day, halloween). What you agree in the final orders is what will stick until child is 18 so if you do not right it now, you will have to come back and fight for it later. It is harder to change after the first set of final papers. You can ask questions here if you want. Good luck!
#12
Father's Issues / Looking for help.
Last post by Fred1984 - Mar 26, 2021, 06:26:04 AMMy name is Fred. I'm a combat veteran, combat engineer. I did route clearance in Afghanistan in 2012. I am going through a child custody battle. I am raising money to help with my lawyer fees for child custody. I've had to hire two different attorneys over the span of 2 and a half years. I filed one week after I found out my daughter was born in 2018. The mother completely alienated me a few months after she was pregnant. I had to file unknown name for my daughter. I've done everything I could, to taking parenting classes and trying to stay in touch with my daughters grandparents. My case was postponed multiple times over 2 and a half years, twice do to COVID. This resulted in multiple lawyer visits to prepare for a court date that didn't happen and increased my lawyer fees. Any donations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
gofundme. com/f/725fak-fathers-rights-child-custody
-Fred
gofundme. com/f/725fak-fathers-rights-child-custody
-Fred
#13
Father's Issues / Re: Temp.orders
Last post by ocean - Mar 21, 2021, 11:19:30 AMTemporary orders for what? Visitation? child support? Usually temp orders are put in place so both parents have access to child while the courts have hearings/trial. Ask for the most visitation as possible, offer to pick up from school/daycare. If the situation is crazy, then ask for specifics so there are no questions on who gets child when. (ex. pick up spots and times, who drives child to and from exchanges). Easter and Fathers day is coming up, put those in these temp orders if possible. If you have not seen child in a while, the courts may do a step up plan where you get a few hours and then work up to overnights. If you a bed for child, you should be getting child every other weekend- extended weekends if possible with your jobs. You can also ask the if either parent needs a babysitter over 2 hours , they have to ask the other parent before any other family or babysitter. How old is child and we can help show you some plans. (you only have to post in one of these boards, we read them all). We are not lawyers, just parents who have gone through family court for many many years.
#14
General Issues / Temp.orders
Last post by Guidance2020 - Mar 20, 2021, 04:15:52 PMHow to prepare for A temp.orders hearing
#15
Father's Issues / Temp.orders
Last post by Guidance2020 - Mar 20, 2021, 04:12:51 PMHow to prepare for A temp.orders hearing.
#16
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by ocean - Mar 11, 2021, 02:02:10 PMThe courts only care about the child. Call the local school district and see what has to be turned in as far as home schooling. Right now there are also kids on remote learning (not the same as home schooling) where the district does online lessons and child stays home. Which one is child doing? If it is remote, the child has a teacher you can contact.
The courts will not care about what you think or what you have seen. CPS would need to be called and open a file against mom with any charges. They rarely pull a child and change custody.
Once she puts you down as father or the state finds out , she will probably not receive any of the child support and any money will be given back to state to "repay" them.
If you ever feel child is in danger or no food, you can call the local police to do a welfare check.
The courts will not care about what you think or what you have seen. CPS would need to be called and open a file against mom with any charges. They rarely pull a child and change custody.
Once she puts you down as father or the state finds out , she will probably not receive any of the child support and any money will be given back to state to "repay" them.
If you ever feel child is in danger or no food, you can call the local police to do a welfare check.
#17
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by desperateFather - Mar 10, 2021, 07:41:53 PMThe child is eight years old. He was pulled out of school by his mother to be home schooled, however there has been no real record showing that. I am not out of the states, I just travel from state to state. There was no issue as far as visitation until very recently when I landed a better job. We communicated, dates and times, and there was video calling when I was away at work. She has declined child support for years. As far as reason goes to remove the child, I would state that I can provide a better life. One where they do not go hunger, and have clothes that fit. She has a history of violence, even being arrested for DV against me. She is on medications for her mental state but has stopped taking them. There is an excess of alcohol present, and while I cant confirm, I suspect possible drug use. The state of the home is deplorable whenever I would pick the child up.
#18
Custody Issues / Re: need attorney advice
Last post by ocean - Mar 10, 2021, 07:05:21 PMSome states have child support until 18 and others til 21. Look into this before you change.
#19
Custody Issues / Re: Not sure where to turn...
Last post by ocean - Mar 10, 2021, 07:02:26 PMHow old is child(ren)? You really can not just go for custody without a really good reason. If you are able to stay in same school district, you can fight for 50/50 time. They will not move child from home/school/activities/Friends especially when you are not even in the US. Once you are in court, they will make a child support order and a visitation order. You can put in there ways they will contact you while you are away (facetime? Put the exact days/times per week so there is no argument). You can mail them letters/packages. You can contact their school and ask for the parent portal so you can see their attendance and grades. If/when child is old enough for a phone, you can start to contact them directly. Good luck!
#20
Custody Issues / need attorney advice
Last post by looking for help - Mar 10, 2021, 12:46:28 PMHi,
I am looking to move my case from PA to DE since we all have moved here now. I need a Delaware attorney that specializes in Father's Rights and custody issues.
Can anyone steer me in the right direction?
Thank you
I am looking to move my case from PA to DE since we all have moved here now. I need a Delaware attorney that specializes in Father's Rights and custody issues.
Can anyone steer me in the right direction?
Thank you