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#21
Custody Issues / Not sure where to turn...
Last post by desperateFather - Mar 10, 2021, 11:53:22 AMA bit of back ground is in order I suppose. My child's mother who my child stays with, declined child support years ago. My understanding is she has been collecting benefits by stating she doesn't know where I am, however I have proof where she has brought my child to me over the course of years. My work has me travel and I am away for months at a time. Recently, things have been much better for me as I landed a job that is above what I normally make. I made a post showing how my life had improved over the previous year and now she has refused contact between my child and I until child support is paid, and a visitation order in place. She is telling my child that the reason I am not contacting them is because I refuse to do as she wants. She lives in KY and I am currently working abroad. I wish to file for custody because I can provide a better life, both mentally and physically for my child. Please help!!! The average percent of fathers with custody is less then 20%, so I fear that unless I come fully prepared, I have a snowballs chance of being able to provide my child with the life they deserve. I just don't know where to turn.
#22
Colorado State Forum / Re: Parental alienation
Last post by maybenut - Feb 13, 2021, 12:52:34 PMIm going through it right now in WA. I cant tell you what has definitely worked, because in in the middle of it, but here are some common sense things to get you started:
Here's some advice.
-Educate yourself about PA. There are resources on this site. Read books
-Get yourself into therapy to learn to deal with it and realize that you're in for a long battle
-Tell as many people as possible involved in your case. Make sure you don't sound like a crazy person. Just the facts
-Get your kids into therapy ASAP
-Instead of accusing the other parent of PA, describe their behavior and how it interferes with your relationship with your kids
-Get a GAL or a parental evaluation. It would help if they were trained for PA specifically, but those are hard to find
-You will need evidence and/or witnesses to prove your case to the evaluators and in court. You need to prove a pattern of behavior, because everyone gets the benefit of a doubt for a single incident, and we all make mistakes
Here's some advice.
-Educate yourself about PA. There are resources on this site. Read books
-Get yourself into therapy to learn to deal with it and realize that you're in for a long battle
-Tell as many people as possible involved in your case. Make sure you don't sound like a crazy person. Just the facts
-Get your kids into therapy ASAP
-Instead of accusing the other parent of PA, describe their behavior and how it interferes with your relationship with your kids
-Get a GAL or a parental evaluation. It would help if they were trained for PA specifically, but those are hard to find
-You will need evidence and/or witnesses to prove your case to the evaluators and in court. You need to prove a pattern of behavior, because everyone gets the benefit of a doubt for a single incident, and we all make mistakes
#23
Colorado State Forum / Re: Parental alienation
Last post by Guidance2020 - Feb 07, 2021, 03:24:34 PMCorrection-advice
#24
Colorado State Forum / Parental alienation
Last post by Guidance2020 - Feb 07, 2021, 03:03:48 PMLooking for some advise on how to deal with parental alienation
#25
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by Waylon - Dec 26, 2020, 08:28:25 AMQuote from: lozano on Dec 25, 2020, 04:12:57 AMHe gave you a URL, go visit that page and it'll probably have his contact information.
Hello, how can I get in touch with you?
#26
General Issues / Re: Mom trying to push me out
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:14:47 AMWhatever you do, you need to do it on record. You need to show some proofs during the court.
#27
Father's Issues / Re: Travelling outside the cou...
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:12:57 AMQuote from: russelldknight on Feb 16, 2020, 04:27:50 AM
I'm a divorce lawyer and I wrote an article about this exact issue.
rdklegal.com/travel-outside-of-the-country-with-your-children-after-a-chicago-illinois-divorce
Hello, how can I get in touch with you?
#28
Virginia State Forum / Re: Being punished for being m...
Last post by lozano - Dec 25, 2020, 04:03:38 AMThat's really a frustrating issue, hope it will be okay soon 
#29
Visitation Issues / Re: how do you learn to deal w...
Last post by ocean - Oct 26, 2020, 04:55:22 PMThen maybe just email him "As you know, your parenting time is every Sunday, but you continually do not show up each week. Please let me know which Sundays you will be available this month and next so I can plan around them. Also, you said you would tutor xx in xx. If you can not commit to a weekly time, I will have to find alternate tutor as xx needs immediate help now as per the CSE meeting on XX."
If he does not respond, second email "I have not heard from you, until I hear from you , I will assume you are not exercising your parenting time. Children need consistency and I do not want to keep telling xx you are coming and then do not show up each week."
Use email or certified letter so you can prove you tried on your end. As we say on this page for many years...you can not force a parent to parent.....
If he does not respond, second email "I have not heard from you, until I hear from you , I will assume you are not exercising your parenting time. Children need consistency and I do not want to keep telling xx you are coming and then do not show up each week."
Use email or certified letter so you can prove you tried on your end. As we say on this page for many years...you can not force a parent to parent.....
#30
Visitation Issues / Re: how do you learn to deal w...
Last post by balleros - Oct 24, 2020, 08:23:12 AMCancel? cancel what? he never commits to anything...
he has had the same job and although his 2 days off may vary, he always has Sunday off which is his visitation day and if he doesn't have Sunday, he has Saturday.
He has no other kids he needs to spend time with
he just is not quite there I guess
I told him that we had an IEP meeting. He said "I work at that time". i work too but I attended. I said "I can't spend any more money on a Math tutor. he said "I will work with him". he said tat on a Thursday and he was talking about meeting on Saturday or Sunday. Then he changed it to possibly the following week or the week after. C'mon....kids has a need NOW...not whenever he wants
he has had the same job and although his 2 days off may vary, he always has Sunday off which is his visitation day and if he doesn't have Sunday, he has Saturday.
He has no other kids he needs to spend time with
he just is not quite there I guess
I told him that we had an IEP meeting. He said "I work at that time". i work too but I attended. I said "I can't spend any more money on a Math tutor. he said "I will work with him". he said tat on a Thursday and he was talking about meeting on Saturday or Sunday. Then he changed it to possibly the following week or the week after. C'mon....kids has a need NOW...not whenever he wants