DSS in the home for the third time in 4 months

[mickey24]

Hello, I have not been on her in a while. My husband has two boys from befor me. We have them 43% of the time she has them the rest they go to school at her house. She had a live in boyfriend and two other childern with him a two and a 8 mo old. Last year the live in froced feed the 12 year old corn and he choaked. He got charged with abuse. then about 3 months ago he punched a door to it split in half. with the boys on one side and he was on the other. Ge got charged on that count too. Then last weekend my step sons came over to are place and as soon as they got in to the van they starterd with the last thing that he has done to them. The 10 year old and the mother went on a school field trip and the 12 year old and the two little ones were left home with the boyfriend. My SS was sent upstaired to get his cell phone out of the shorts that were onthe boyfriends bed. He could not  find it the bed was unmade and the shorts and the bed were both tan. He came back down and told the boyfriend that he could not find it and he went off. He was playing the X-box. He tossed the controler and then took his are and sent everything on the end table flying in to the room Two thing his my ss and one thing hit the 2 year old. The boyfriend was half way up the stairs when my ss told him that he had hit him and the 2 year old. My ss also told him that he was going to tell his dad about this.  Then the boyfriend told him that if he told he was going to rip his f***ing head off and that he was going to do the same to his dad. that all my ss and his dad want to do is cause trouble for him and HIS family. My ss got his school bag and walked out the door to go to school it was 25 min early befor he was to start off walking to school but he wanted to get out of there. he told the school what had happened when he got to school. they wanted to know why he was so early. The school called the DSS case worker that had the last case. they did not call us which mad us a bit upset. My ss wanted to call us from school but they wanted him to calm down first. Then later in the day his did not ask to call so they did not ask him if he wanted to. this happened tuesday of last week. we did not find out about this to friday when we picked them up. When my huband talked to them wed night he said that he needed to talk to us but not on the phone. My husband asked the mother if he could come up thursday to take the boys out for ice cream, she said that we get them on friday and we can take them out then. it was not are week to see them. she did not pick up the phone thursday or friday. So we werwe not able to talk to them both of those days. We went to her home friday to get them and she was not home they were home with the boyfriend. My husband went and knocked on the door and they came out. on the way to the car they said that they had to tralk to him when they got in to the car. As soon as we were out og ther driveway they start in with what happened. We got home and my husband sat them down and had them tell it to us agean. I took notes. We then did dinner and got them off to bed. Then my husband called the Hotline. He will not do it when they are up the 10 year old was caught cutting him self about 4 months ago so. Something DSS did nothing about. He called the hotline and told them everything. They said that some one would be getting back to us. We live about a hour from my ss so they said that they would talk to them in schjool on monday or tue. My husband called the school to find out if they had did anything about all of this due to they were the first ones to here about it. they said that they called the case worker from the old case last week on tuesday. No one from the county called us back to yesterday. And when my husband call to thak to the boys she has her phone off. So we can not talk to them so i sure that DSS was at her house yesterday and she is upset. She has 3 charges of child abuse and he also has 3 plus this one that they are working on. Why has DSS not taken they away from her yet. We tryed to go to court to get them but we could not get a lawyer and her mom and dad got her a good one so we lost. this was this time last year. HELP PLEASE

[mickey24]

DSS will not take the boys away from her and we go to court and can not aford a lawyer and she has a good one and won last time that was about a year ago.  

[4honor]

does not generally believe the NCP when allegations are made.

Keep careful records of any and all evidence of the happenings (photos, copies of reports, video tapes of children stating what happened, etc).

Make sure your children know how to get to your home unassisted. And insist that child(ren) get familiar with the neightbors, as they should be able to go next door and tell the neighbor if this happens again or they feel afraid of the BF.

You need third party witnesses willing to come forward. I know I despise the little brats in my neighborhood (the little car keying, thieving, egg throwing truants), but if one were to show up on my doorstep and request help, I would pull them inside, lock my doors and call police.

[wendl]

I have a friend that is a case worker at CPS, and she tells me all the time how hard her job is, so many times we would like to remove children from the care of that parent but legally cannot.

She says always look and document the following.

Bruises in unnormal places, and bruises that look like finger prints, to photograph them and take them to the dr's to have the dr document it.  

She says (not in so many words as she can't come right out and say it" but she was leading to that CPS does NOT take reports from the NCP parents and when you do call if you tell them you are the NCP the 1st thing they as (yes they come right out and ask) "ARE YOU IN A CUSTODY BATTLE".

Pretty sad when the states child protective services DO NOT protect the children, look how many children CPS has removed to place back with that same parent and those kids end up beaten up or worse dead.


**These are my opinions, they are not legal advice**

[dipper]

The 12 year old may be able to choose where to live - however, he may feel he needs to be there to protect the younger ones.

CPS - keep going up the chain. Dont stop with your local CPS....

My cousin and his wife were seriously neglecting/abusing their children....so many people reported them and it was allowed to go on and on.  In fact, the worker tried every possible way to keep this family together - despite the torture these children lived in.  I reported them several times myself -and other family members did as well, and others in the community.  this went on for about four years before anything was done....

Thank God one day, they pulled up and took all 5 kids.  The kids have been separated, but they are blossoming.  And the abuse we knew about was just the tip of the iceberg....three relatives took in  a child each...and it has came out that my cousin and his wife were sexually abusing the children as well....the kids have serious emotional problems that we can only pray they will overcome....