NO VISITATION

[MYSONSDAD]

"Children learn what they live"

[hagatha]

Well CPS would rather you never spanked your children. However, I beleive you can smack, using your hand only, no closed fist and never in the face. And you can not leave a mark that lasts more than a couple hours.


Remember . . . KARMA is a Wonderful Thing!!!!!

[Stepmom0418]

No Problem! I thought there were several that may be interested in this subject!!

[MYSONSDAD]

Next time you have your boys and they are acting up, sit them on the couch and make them hold hands. After a few times, they will get the message.
 
"Children learn what they live"

[Stepmom0418]

Hey funny you should mention this because DH and I have actually done this with our girls. They are only 17 months apart in age. SO...someimes they are the best of friends and then other times one would think they were worst enimies!

This does help and I would also agree it may be something worth trying.

[onedaddy]

Thank you!
I will request that be put into the new order.  
The police are a huge problem. You are right, the BM in our case has filed false police reports 2x.  You better believe they listened,  they said her sworn statement without any proof to back anything up conmstituted a mandatory arrest.  My god, my husband was never arrested in his life and had to spend time in a prison because of this, thankfully at trial the judge realized she was full of it closed my husbands record but refused to punish her.  Now when I have approached the police regarding threats of violence made by BM and her husband and threats to throw him back in jail if we do not do as she says with tape recordings to prove every bit of it, they turn a deaf ear.
Maybe if it is worded in the CO I can coerce them into listening.  
Thanks muchly!

[MYSONSDAD]

Your welcome.

I had problems today, denied visitation and they refused to fill out an incident report, said it would cause them to be supeanaed and would cost the city time and a half for them to appear in court. Like it or not the supeana will be served anyway.

What about enforcing peoples rights.  To protect and serve.

I know where you are coming from. Just got an RO off me. No evidence and she can ruin my life with 'I'm afraid' And yet she does not get a slap on the wrist. I lost time with my son over it and I do expect another RO any day now.

So my question is...

What good is a court order if the Police Agencies will not enforce it?

If the shoe was on the other foot, I would be sitting in jail right now.

[TTOPETE]

I feel for you, just cause i know how it feels to have somebody tell you "you cant see your kids" and then to have police backup(ro). well, this is probably not the best way to go about doing things but like my brother said it will get results. when calling the cops to enforce a court order dont mention it. simply tell them that you are there to pick up your kids and your trying to avoid a domestic dispute. this automaticlly makes it a possible dv so it becomes priority. cops garanteed to be there withen 5 minutes. keep your cool. stay in your car till they get there. have your court order papers. my brother is a LAPD. ADVISE STRAIGHT FROM THE SOURCE. dont forget all you were trying to do was avoid confrontation.(you were the one afraid) dont forget to get names and badge #'s.

[MYSONSDAD]

Your brother is 'RIGHT ON'.

When I got my RO, My son was the first priority. He was so young and I wanted to keep up the visitation. The attorneys worked out a meeting place we both agreed to. It was the local Police Department. On the first day, I went early and explained to the Officer I was having some problems with picks and drop offs, told them I was trying to avoid any further conflict. Just wanted my time with my son.

I always get the name and badge numbers. I think yesterday went the way it did because my trial is coming up and I know they have probably been supeanaed.

I went inside so I would be on tape, he also called the dispatch several times letting them know her car was there and she refused to answer the door. There has to be a log of that. And I brought my witness.

I do stay in the car until they get there, but I drive a few houses down so that she can not get me for stalking or harrassment.

"Children learn what they live"