What is a father to do?I need

[phoenix_reborn]

I need help from people who are experts on this subject.

I live in Texas. A friend of mine is in a custody battle with his ex wife over their 11 month old child. When I met his son, he had a knot in his head. From what I know, the mother has no car nor job, she lives with her mother. My friend, the father, has a high paying job, a car, an apartment, and he's fit. The mother and her mother put a restraining order on him so he can't see his son. He use to be able to get his son on weekends and the mother stopped that. She said the lawyer put a temp order on him and that he must pay the lawyer fees. The divorce isn't final yet, my friend has a lawyer already, but I'm not sure its a good lawyer. In the past my friend went to jail twice. One for assumed assault and the other was possession of ice. He did his time years ago. He's 29 and the mother is I think 22. I've seen him with his son. He spends at least $300 on his son every Saturday or Sunday he sees him. But he's not allowed to anymore. They split because the wife wanted her ex back or something like that. He tried to work it out, but she didn't want to. I heard that in Texas, it's hard for a father to get custody of a child, because they always give it to the mother. What can he do to get his son back? His court date is today, but I told him if he doesn't get his son to keep fighting. I really think he should get custody of his son.


Thank you sincerely,

Flora

[Jade]

>I need help from people who are experts on this subject.
>
>I live in Texas. A friend of mine is in a custody battle with
>his ex wife over their 11 month old child. When I met his son,
>he had a knot in his head. From what I know, the mother has no
>car nor job, she lives with her mother. My friend, the father,
>has a high paying job, a car, an apartment, and he's fit.

Having no car and no job doesn't make her unfit.  As for the knot on the head.  My youngest constantly had knots and bruises on her forehead because she fell a lot.  She didn't believe in walking.  She started running before 11 months.  There wasn't any abuse going on.  




The
>mother and her mother put a restraining order on him so he
>can't see his son. He use to be able to get his son on
>weekends and the mother stopped that. She said the lawyer put
>a temp order on him and that he must pay the lawyer fees. The
>divorce isn't final yet, my friend has a lawyer already, but
>I'm not sure its a good lawyer.

If he is not happy with his lawyer, he should get a new one.

And lawyers don't get restraining orders because their fees haven't been paid.

In the past my friend went to
>jail twice. One for assumed assault and the other was
>possession of ice. He did his time years ago.

So he has a history of violence and drugs.  



I've seen him with his son. He spends at
>least $300 on his son every Saturday or Sunday he sees him.
>But he's not allowed to anymore.

Spending lots of money on a child doesn't make one a good parent.

I think there is more to the story.  Especially given his history with drugs and violence.