Child's Mother Is A NIGHTMARE!!

[TiredTexasDaddy33]

I am so very frustrated, that I cannot even think straight! It is a long story, so I will try to make it as short as possible. When my ex and I divorced in 96 we both agreed to make things work and she told me she would not move our 3 yr old (at the time) too far away from me, ever! I read the decree she gave me, without having an attorney read it (because I trusted her) and signed it. It stated "she has the right to change domicile". (PERIOD) It should have stated ....change domicile in the state of Texas!! 6 months later she remarried and moved to California!

My new wife and I went to California to revise the decree, because we were told it had to be in California, not Texas! About 6 months after that, they moved to Utah! Now, what decree is the right one? The one from California or the original one from Texas? Also, if I want to revise it again, do I have to go to Utah? Is there something else I can do??

She pulled a good one this past Christmas and I blew my top. My daughter just turned 11 by the way. In the new REVISED decree from CA, it states that I must have the travel plans and itenerary mailed to her prior to 30 days of picking her up (which I have to fly from Dallas, pick up a rent car, drive to my daughters, drive back to the airport and fly back to Dallas in the same day). How convenient is that? Wow! I am in school full time and have no MONEY!! I sent the travel plans 27 days prior and they told me I could not have her, because it was not outside the court-ordered 30 days!!

Now my ex has had her two straight Christmas' and has recently told me not to even think about asking for Christmas visitation this year, because she gets her on odd numbered Christmas', so I will miss out on a 3rd in a row! I had recently asked that maybe I get her for this Christmas then, since she had her the previous two.

She is ruining my life and people wonder "Why Dads give up?????" I cannot take any more of this!!! I have not been able to see my daughter since my shortened summer in August of last year!! What the hell do I need to do? Is there anything I can do for Christmas this year? I am thinking about taking a very hard look into PAS!!

Are there steps I need to take and what order?  I am going thru a major depression over this, while my ex has a Hummer and Lexus, lives in Park City Ski Resort (next to Steve Young) and just laughs at me.  

I am sick of it!!!!!

Thanks for any help!

Cody (TiredTexasDaddy33)

[Davy]

Cody
First of all I'm not an attorney and you may want to post this to Soc (below) ..probably the first 3 paragraphs would cover the jurisdiction/visitation snafu.  

Check out the articles (bottom of page) on the UCCJA along with the PKPA.  You will discover that a state retains jurisdiction as long as one parent remains in the state but there are other considerations and Ca. gained jrisdiction when you filed there.  You may have got lucky when she moved her fat ass to Ut since you MAY now force jurisdiction in Tx. (Denton ?)  since the child has no connection to Ut and Ut is clearly an inconvient forum.

It certainly is worth a shot...you really can't be expected to chase her fat ass all over the country trying to have a relationship with your dear daughter.

At very minimum, DO NOT EVER AGREE  to the visitation terms as stated.  Think more in terms of shared transportation expenses ... your daughter is certainly old enough for direct flights...you pay to send and fat ass pays to return.  

When you find out, let me know how long it takes an empty Hummer to reach a Ut ravine.

[leftoverinmn]

An "empty" Hummer?? I better zip my lip..

[patton]

What jurisdiction do you pay child support to? Texas? Cal? Utah?

You really do need an attorney to straighten this out. and do what Davy said read up on this.

The minute she moved you should have filed for custody in Texas.

[gipsy]

At least make sure you next visit is mailed on time , She got you on the three day thing but i Think a judge would really frown on that,

[TiredTexasDaddy33]

Thanks a bunch for the input!  I am in talks with a Utah attorney as we speak.  I did bring up the UCCJA issue and he is getting back to me.  I am willing to do whatever it takes to have my day in court.  I am selling "a kiss" on ebay to raise money to fight her.  I have a full time job and getting a part  time one to go along with school, just so I have a fair battle against them.  They have all the money in the world!  Thanks for all the encouragment.

Utah Ravine  :)

Cody

[TiredTexasDaddy33]

Oh, I will make sure it is mailed out 60 to 120 days in advance.  I have a bunch to take to court with me.  I just need the funds.  Working on it though.

Cody