step son does not want to come home after the summer break

[CORSET]

Pa is the state that all parties reside in
cp is father bm is the ncp.
son is thirteen years old
sitution: ncp mother informed father cp that son does not want to come home after the summer break, ncp mother has son for the summer months and cp father has him for the school year.
son wont tell father the reasons why he doesnt want to come home
mother ncp has sought the help of an attorney to modify custody agreement, she wants full physical custody with joint,, wants every other weekend and two non back to back weekends during the summer,

major changes in the house hold: father work schedule was changed from 9-5 to 4-12, father is home every weekend and nights.

son does not call and when father calls to speak with son the son has very little to say. step family has had no contact with son, there are two other children living in the house hold...

when father spoke with son yesterday he had no idea that this was the weekend that he would be spending with cp father

those of the brief facts of this case

mother left son when he was 10 months and this goes on every year

thanks,,

[socrateaser]

Drive over to mom's and ask if you can speak with the child privately for an hour and find out what's up. If the boy won't talk, then maybe you need to have a therapist or GAL appointed to try to get to the bottom of the situation, before it gets any worse.

I have a sneekin' suspicion that you already know what the kid doesn't want to come home again. If not, that would be rather unusual, so you tell me why.

You can file for a temporary order instructing the mother to take the boy to a therapist now, or you can wait until the boy refuses to come home at the end of vaction. It's up to you.

[CORSET]

Thanks for replying
i have many suspicions they are as follows

a g/f, he told father that he has a real girl friend

mother has promised him the moon, this has been documented, last year they went through this very same situation and mother told therapist that once child reaches certain ages he will be given such things as cell phone and a car when he turns 13 years old

third: son does not like to share his friends with younger step brother

fourth: when this situation came to light, he told both his father and myself that it was because the father worked at night 4-12 and than when asked again the son retracted his story..

fifth: mother has finally gotten her hangs into him

none of this situation makes any sense, the kid told us he misses his father and yet when the father calls the son does not want to speak with him

finally i have suggested until im blue in the face for the son and father to have some therapy,,

the son is supposed to be here this weekend but who the heck knows anymore..
can i the step mother petition the courts to have the son taken to a neutral therapist

please help

[socrateaser]

Makes sense to me. I was a 13 year old boy once. We get horny (and I mean REAL horny). So, if the boy's going through puberty and some little filly has caught his eye, then he will have lost control of the little bit of reason accumulated during his short lifespan.

Tell the kid that he can see the girl, no problem. Just better tell him the brutal facts re birds and bees, and especially about broken hearts, and how fickle young girls are about their own emotions.

The boy needs dad to start treating him like a man growing up, rather than like a boy who doesn't know what he's talking about.

You cannot file a motion for appointment of a therapist, unless you are prepared to first move to intervene in the case. This action will almost certainly end your marriage, and at that point, you won't be much interested in continuing the motion.

I think maybe you need to step back from the brink and just let life's little drama play out however it will. The most you can reasonably do is try to figure out a way to get dad to realize that his son is growing up fast, and that in order to mitigate the rebellion that dad needs to start treating his kid like a friend rather than a child.

I suggest that you dress up in stilleto heels and thigh highs -- men respond better to suggestions made by women in scanty underware -- I know it always works on me.

[CORSET]

thanks

yes he is very horny and curious

i have spoken with him about the birds and the bees

and also know very well about the broken hearts


now are you a lawyer or some very wise owl

and i do own the stilleto heels and a crop,, wink wink

thanks again