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Alabama State Forum / Santa protest in B'ham
« on: Dec 03, 2004, 09:51:31 AM »
A protest in support of NCPs was held outside the courthouse in Birmingham Alabama.  The good news is that it happened at all.  The bad news is that there appeared to be only half a dozen peolpe there.  

Any start is a good start!!

Check out http://www.alcfc.com for more info.

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Alabama State Forum / ala family rights
« on: Nov 19, 2004, 04:16:41 PM »
Yahoo has a group that is a good source of information: alafamilyrightsnews

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Alabama State Forum / PAS and caselaw?
« on: Jun 03, 2004, 12:32:03 PM »
I have found three cases in Alabama that relate directly to PAS and might be relevent to my case and others who post here.  However, I am hitting some dead ends trying to obtain more details.  Maybe someone out there a bit more computer savy than myself could be of assistance.  

I will share what I already have:

#1
C.J.L v. M.W.B., 2003 Ala. Civ. App., February 28, 2003
This case changed custody to the father, giving him sole physical custody. Mother appealed saying shouldn't have relied on doctor's diagnosis of PAS.  The ruling was upheld by the appeals court.

#2
CASE NO. DR-97-502272.03-C
Tina S Wilson
vs.
Drew C Wilson

This is a case filed in October 2003 in Mobile County.  The judge is Rosemary D Chambers.  A father's rights group has submitted a 40+ page brief to the judge supporting the BF's position in regards to the BM exhibiting signs of PAS.  The brief is posted at http://www.ancpr.org  This case may very well be over by now, but I cannot seem to find any more info on the outcome.

#3
CASE NO. DR-96-761.01. Jan 06, 2001
Berry v. Berry, Circuit Court of Tuscaloosa County, AL

This case envolves PAS somehow.  That's all I know.

Thanks for any help and I hope some others will benefit as well.

LittleBit's Dad

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Shrink Rap / Anyone in Alabama?
« on: Jun 04, 2004, 01:48:06 PM »
Please see my post on the State message board for Alabama.

Little Bit's Dad

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Shrink Rap / What do I tell 10 yr old about going to court?
« on: Mar 01, 2004, 02:31:20 PM »
I have taken the plunge and filed for custody of 10 yr old son and contempt of court against ex.  She will be served Friday right after I pick up son for the weekend.  

I am stressing very bad over what to tell my son, or even if to tell him anything at all. My top priority is HIM, ALWAYS! I do not want him to have to deal with these pressures.  That is the main reason I decided to go through the ridiculous court system again, to try to give him a little relief from her.

OK, I'll try to explain as briefly as possible.  Divorced when son was 5, I got custody.  2 yrs later ex won custody.  Although she used every sick tactic known to mankind, the judged ruled that I was a "fine father and good provider". But because I work for a living, and she & new husband stay home & live off government, son is better off with her instead of in daycare, and I got enlarged visitation.

--Fast forward 3 yrs to today--

Ex has tried relentlessly to erode mine and son's relationship and time together (PAS all the way). I have been silent and done nothing, thinking that it would be less stressful to our son and at least he could have peace of mind while at my house.  As soon as he is returned to her Sunday, she will make him read all the legal paperwork and make sure he understands everything that his Daddy is trying to do to them (that is small stuff for her!).  

I am agonizing about what he will be subjected to between now and the time we actually go to court (about 6 months).  

Should I have a talk with him about this?

If I do, What should I say? Will I be causing the same anxieties in him that his mother does?

If I don't, Will be completely unprepared for his mother's reactions?  And will he have nothing to base his opinions on except the garbage she is feeding him?

Wow! If I'm having such a hard time dealing with this, imagine what it must be like for a 10 yr old!!??  I have got to make the right choices for his sake!

Any help will be greatly appreciated!

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Dear Socrateaser / How many times can court date change?
« on: Apr 13, 2005, 09:01:50 AM »
Filing date for change of custody and contempt was in AL on 02/04. Court date was set for 07/04. Evaluation was ordered and court was re-scheduled for 01/05. Evaluation was not done, so court was moved to 06/05. As of yesterday, Judge has a scheduling conflict, and the date is now 05/05.

I don't have much confidence that it will happen in May, because BM is notorious for postponning as long as possible.

1) Is there any limits on how many times the court date can be changed?

2) In regards to limits, does it make a difference if the re-scheduling is due to the court processes (as stated above), or if it is due to one of the parties...such as BM having last minute emergencies.

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Dear Socrateaser / child support refund?
« on: Sep 09, 2004, 07:53:39 AM »
I've paid CS for past 5 yrs based on me making 40K, and BM and husband making zero.

I filed for custody and contempt in February 2004, court date is set for January 2005.  In a deposition, BM said husband is self-employed and has made 30K last two years.

1) Can I ask the courts that I be compensated for past payments?

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Dear Socrateaser / Is written testimony admissable?
« on: Aug 20, 2004, 04:02:11 PM »
I have joint custody of 10 yr old son in Alabama, BM has primary residential.  I filed for custody and contempt of court.  Court date is 8-30-04.  Time is important because son is currently not attending school.  

My attny and GAL think there might be enough evidence to go to trial without a custody evaluation.  They, and BM's attny, are meeting with judge 8-25-04 to decide whether or not to postpone court and order an evaluation, or hear the case Monday.

We are scrambling to get some information ready for the judge to view.

Myself, BM and son have been seeing the same psychologist off and on since 2002.

1) What must written statements contain to make them 'valid' to the judge or in court?

2) How much info, or what info, is my psychologist allowed to give to me as evidence?
    a. Appointment dates my son has had?
    b. Appointment dates BM has had?
    c. Appointment dates cancelled?
    d. Who initiated counseling?
    e. Who has paid for the visits?

3) Is it legal to contact BM's prior and /or current landlords and ask questions about her tenancy?

4) Is it legal to take pictures of BM's house (outside) without her permission?

5) Can I obtain records of DHR's investigations of BM

6) Just for curiosity if ya don't mind....Is it customery for the parties to be informed of a meeting between the judge and the attorneys?  

As always, Thanks for your time and knowledge!

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Dear Socrateaser / medicaid records
« on: Aug 03, 2004, 09:37:43 AM »
Change of custody and contempt hearing scheduled for first of next month in Alabama.  Right now we have joint legal custody with Mom having primary residential custody.

CP has our child (and the other six family members) on public assistance fraudulently.

To save time, we will try to get the records without going thru the court.  

1) Do I have a legal right to view my son's Medicaid records?

2) What about the original application filled out by CP?

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Dear Socrateaser / Ristrict communication between son & BM?
« on: Jun 14, 2004, 04:07:21 PM »
My 10 year old son is supposed to be with me for 6 weeks during the summer.  I am trying to decide how to handle the communications to & from BM while he is here.  

Myself and three different psychologists have already tried, with no success, to make her understand the harm she is causing our son.

Every letter and phone call last summer was intended to make son feel bad about being at my house.  And he was noticeably disturbed each time.  Here are some examples of things she says to him in either phone calls or letters:

“I sit in your room & hold your things to try and be close to you while you are gone.”  

“I will never give up on having you here with me.”

“It makes me cry all the time when you are not here. I know you cry for me too.”

“I just knew you would hate it there.  I’ll come get you whenever you want me to.”

“Just remember everything me and (stepfather) talked to you about.  We will never ever let anything bad happen to you.”

“Your family misses you so much.”

“(little brother) cries every day asking ‘where’s xxx’.”

“I pray to God every time the phone rings that it is you.”

Almost every letter had notes written on the envelope and on the letters in big magic marker:

“Please call me as soon as you read this!”
“Write me a letter right now!”
“Your Daddy won’t let my calls come through!”
“I need to know you are safe!”
“I’m counting on you to call me!”

1) Should I restrict or monitor the phone calls and letters from BM to son?  

--There is a custody issue pending in court--

2)Will I look like I'm playing tit-for-tat to spite BM?  

3) Or will the judge realize I'm only trying to protect my child?

LittleBit's Dad

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