I was reading your post on Soc's site and here is what we did and what we got and how long it took and until right before the end.....we were pro-se.
Mother denied visitation to me (father) for a few months....I didn't know what to do, she moved...I went to a lawyer, who said I couldn't do anything, because we have moved together before (we were never married) but we had a custody action of joint 50/50 every day and EOW in place.
Go forward 5 months, I filed pro-se contempt of visitation. I had certified letters that I had sent, and in those letters I put date, place and time to meet. I went...drove 3 hours each time...knowing she wouldn't show up....got a receipt and had a police officer meet me at around the same time....I asked for a domestic standby due to hostility on the mother's part and wanted to keep peace. I asked them to file a report each time and if they said they didn't have to, I explained the situation and if they still refused, I at least got the dispatchers name, the police officers name and badge #.
I kept a phone log of every call. I kept a journal by the phone and wrote in it every day. By the time court came around, I had all my ducks in a row....she didn't show up for court. 1st strike, because a small hurricane had passed through on the weekend, she called the court and said the roads were not passable....she in Georgia, us in FL....all jurisdiction in FL still. Well because I knew she was lying, I called Georgia DOT and asked if the roads she claimed were unpassable were indeed such, I asked that they fax me the information. Of course, I knew she lied and I used that evidence in court as well.
Not only that, we called her sister and one of her friends to show we made every effort to reach her to find out where she was...and got a receipt of the location of pick up referenced in the letter. In your letter tell the other party to notify you in writing withing 5 days on their intent not to bring the child and to send it certified, heck even include an already prepaid envelope with a yes or no letter inside...make it easy for them to screw up...because they will.
You and they have the burden....she only had excuses....she failed to show up again and this time the magistrate stuck it to her. But we still had to wait for her to respond within a certain time before the Judge would sign off...well...she finally showed with an attorney who said I failed to disclose all information that the child would be starting Kindergarten in 06....filings all started in May of 05..uh....didn't think it would take 6 months. Long story short...we got an attorney because the judge asked them to file a reason as to why he should vacate the order he had just signed and us to file one as well....at that point...we had to get an attorney...but it worked out....we received over 6 months of make up visitation and now we are asking the court to
change custody to me because of drugs found in my 5 year olds system the first week of visitation after almost a year of not seeing him...mom's a loser.
So take what you have, do a little more....take a friend with you...take a video camera...if it is a public place....you can video...we did and didn't need it...the judge didn't want to see it. But it helps if they do show up to keep them under control.
GOOD LUCK!