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billievaughters

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what can be done when
« on: Dec 01, 2009, 03:56:24 AM »
a mother constitently interfers with the fathers time. for instance when i had my children saturday nite at an event for my daughter  her mother came over and took over my children. when i told her to give them back she refused so i had to call the police. what can i file on her?


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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #1 on: Dec 01, 2009, 04:26:55 PM »
Did you get a police report?
It is hard for events in the community but you can have something added to your orders stating "both parents are encouraged to see children in all activities but the parent that has visitation rights at the time will take care of the child and not interfere or speak to other parent.

If she threatened your or spouse you can use the police report for a restraining order and then she will not be allowed near YOU. Worked out great for us...she was allowed to come over to kids and say hello but then had to walk away. RO only last a certain amount of time though unless she breaks the order.

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #2 on: Dec 02, 2009, 07:43:30 AM »
So I take it the time the children were not finished with their parenting time with Dad when Mom took them back?
 
File and ask the court for make up time.
 
Sometimes you have no choice.

billievaughters

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #3 on: Dec 02, 2009, 08:03:29 AM »

So I take it the time the children were not finished with their parenting time with Dad when Mom took them back?

File and ask the court for make up time.

Sometimes you have no choice.

 
 
 
yes the children were due back sunday.

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #4 on: Dec 02, 2009, 08:05:00 AM »
and she got pointed her finger in my wifes face and said shut the f up to her, when my wife said nothing to her.


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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #5 on: Dec 02, 2009, 03:53:07 PM »
File contempt that mom did not allow visitation and ask for make-up time and lawyer fees. Ask for more specific wording that she will not speak to you at public events...
You wife can file on her...a restraining order...take the police report and have her file. This will keep her away from her (and you if you are standing there). Bring a tape recorder (some phones do it too) and record if she comes near you. Tape all future pick-up and drop offs with a video camera. Comes in handy to show courts and therapists...

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #6 on: Dec 03, 2009, 03:20:24 AM »
is a restraining order the same as a peace order?

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #7 on: Dec 03, 2009, 06:32:26 AM »
Might be...restraining order...order of protection ...those are what it is called here. If the person comes near you it is CRIMINAL charges they face. You take the police report and go to your local criminal court and see if they will give you a RO. If the person harassed you and the police made a report to charge her, the DA will get you the RO.

You can also get one in family court if it is a family member...but then family court deals with it if they break the order. The criminal one is better because the district attorney deals with it for you.

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #8 on: Dec 03, 2009, 01:45:44 PM »
and go to radio shack and buy a mini-recorder that uses those mini-tapes, and carry it in your pocket at future public events.
 
you get the idea.

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #9 on: Dec 04, 2009, 09:33:22 AM »
Spend the money on a digital recorder with plenty of memory.  Something that makes it very quick and easy to download to a PC.
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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #10 on: Dec 13, 2009, 12:11:32 AM »
Is it admissible or even legal to be recording another person without their knowledge or consent?


I'm on the other end of such secret recordings. The x uses the concealed recorder strategically to contrive incidents and manufacture evidence. There are occasions when I have to deal with her such as at the recent child psychologist interview.

I later discover that out she has recorded the interview in which she has asked me leading questions that might be used against me. We were supposed to be there for our child's benefit.

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Re: what can be done when
« Reply #11 on: Dec 13, 2009, 08:03:31 AM »
It depends on your state....look up the laws in your state. There are phone laws but I think you are talking about in a public place? You can tape in a public place without consent. We taped BM at an exchange telling the kids they didnt have to go with their father without her knowledge.
You need to stay calm in all instance of BM...you can get upset and defend your thinking but need to have control. Let her be the one to go off the handle. Just repeat what you think should be done and why. Answer questions with facts and evidence and not your feelings of the mother. Keep the kids in mind first and what is in their best interest (which would be to see both parents without fighting...)

 

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