mediation for custody of my 14 year old son will be held at the end of November. My son had been living with my wife and myself until July of this year at which time she moved in with her Boyfriend. Since then the time spent with my son has been minimal. No baseball games, no school involvement, no weekends...I could keep going...it's grim. Her boyfriend lives on the other side of town and for my son to live with her would mean he would have to change schools, not play baseball in the league that he is in and live with a man that he doesn't know. He has expressed these same concerns not only to myself, but our therapist that I have been going to since this all started. I am perfectly willing and encourage my son to try to have a relationship with his mother, but there seems to be very little effort on her part to try to reciprocate. Family therapy and a structured environment from myself and my 19 year old daughter who also lives with us is working quite well. While I am quite willing to compromise and negotiate on this issue of custody with my soon to be ex-wife, my fear is that she will be awarded too much time with her son only to disappoint him or damage him emotionally. I mean, she barely called him on his birthday. I have read a considerable amount regarding mediation and how to approach it, i.e. be calm, avoid childish character assassinations of the other parent, be willing to compromise, etc. which is not a problem for me. I'm also keeping a calendar of how much time she spends with him now and I intend on showing that to the mediator. Are there any other tips to prepare for this?