I was a stay at home dad with my kids until January of this year, at which time they went to daycare. With my job, it took me out of town a lot, and there were times I would come home to rotting food on the table, dried used tampons in the hallway, and even a time when I came home to my son chewing on a USED applicator while my ex was sitting on the couch oblivious to what was going on. I got papers from her attorney today stating that according to her, she was the primary caregiver of them since birth, I am unfit, was hardly home, that she is an excellent parent, lied about dates (even stated her mother lived with us!), etc... I am so glad that I took pictures of the way she kept the home during the few months before she took off (made a separate and completely private facebook, and posted them on there immediately after taking them for proof of when I took them and also have a witness that I had to hire to come in and clean the home weekly while I was working so that my kids would live in a sanitary place). I asked for a continuance because I am waiting on a subpoena for some records that would really benefit my case and it was granted today because her attorney wanted it too, so tomorrow all I have to do is fight to see my kids for the next few months until the next hearing in Feb. Based off everything I now have and the motivation I have given my attorney (I have a friend studying as a paralegal that found a new law here that my lawyer didn't know about regarding basis for appeals and a recusal that would help my case in the event this judge keeps on her same path), my attorney is quite confident that I am going to win and my kids will be home in February for good!