I am actually the father (NCP) of the child in question but my wife and I were wanting opinions on our situation. We live several states away from my son and, unfortunately, do not get to see him EOW. I call him weekly and try to continue other forms of communication such as letters and such. The CP has gotten very upset recently because my wife (step-mom) has begun including her own letter to my son when I send mine to him. Nothing inappropriate is said in these letters; she talks about what is going on around our house, asks him what he has been up to, to share with his sister, do good in school, etc.
She started writing him because over the last several weeks, he has asked to speak to her when I make my weekly phone call to him. Prior to this, she did not want to make waves with the CP by initiating her own separate communication with him. However, now that he is specifically asking to speak with her she wants to reciprocate by writing him letters. So we are torn about what the right thing to do here is. Continue her communication with him so he knows that she cares about him as well and wants to stay in touch or please the CP by stopping all letters and only communicating with him when he asks to speak with her on the phone.
I do not feel that she is doing anything wrong but the CP tends to get very upset over anything and everything. I would think she would be pleased that our son has another adult that he can look up to, but that is not the case here. My wife wants to stay in touch with my son between visits but does not want to cause any unnecessary trouble for me. What is everyone's opinion?