My stepdaughter is in school (1st grade). After the divorce I will most likely have no rights to her as I never adopted her. I am trying to get custody of my daughter who is 3 and not in school yet.
My wife was served with the initial divorce papers and in those papers I specified I wanted custody. I havent done my parenting plan
yet. I know this is very important that I try and make it fair. My wife has 8 days left to respond to my petition. There is no court date yet. I figure I have to wait the 8 days before this can be set. I am very eager to get this temporary visitation.
Thanks for advice on the business relationship with my wife. I text her every three days and say "Please let me see Miley" (my daughter). The word please is not very business like.
She has ignored all my attempts to contact her since I filed.
My wife does have a job now yes.
Ok...A year and a half ago we initially separated. I left the house because her boyfriend was coming to our house and I couldn't take it. After I left, her and her boyfriend took my daughter and stepdaughter to south carolina (her boyfriend is not the father of my stepdaughter). You might say she is promiscuous. Multiple men in her life. (Painful realization for me) Any way she moved back in with me to another house to try it again. Then she left again to her boyfriend. Back and forth from there 4 times. I kept waiting like a sucker thinking she might stay for good and realize I am a good man. She always claims her boyfriend is abusive physically. So I always help. but she always goes back anyway. I finally downsized my house and expenses. Then I put her in another house so she didn't have to live with me or him. Just her and the kids and I was close by to help. She abandoned that house 5 days later to her boyfriend. That's when I had enough and finally filed. She packs up and runs somewhere like every single month. No problem if there wasnt kids involved but there is kids involved. She is very unstable. She will surely run somewhere soon when the boyfriend kicks her out again but this time I wont let her at my house and I wont get her another place. And I have no idea where my child will be because I can't get a hold of her.
My dirty laundy is previous drug possession charges...one ten years ago and one 4 years ago. I know this is not good but Dont believe its a deal breaker for some type of custody, preferably joint. Now I am clean, stable, same great job for 6+ years and I do not move around, at least not nearly to the extent she has. My moves were calculated and justifiable in each instance (3 moves) Her moves were rash and unpredictable (10 instances total)
Custody has not been established yet so I know that increases my chances even though my daughter is currently residing wither her mother.
Thank you for your response ocean.
-Also I had a lawyer when this all started but cannot get a hold of him now. It's been a year or more. I'm catching up on my bills now -I just paid for divorce filing and also just put my wife in a house before that(the one she abandoned). It left me hard up, but I make very decent money and will surely have a lawyer soon. I'm not sure if its absolutely neccessary for getting some temporary custody. I know it will help but I also know that temporary custody is not a final ruling. However I have no plans to go to trial without a lawer. That is when the life changing orders will be set. For now while I gather my funds, I am researching everyday and preparing the best I can to at least see my daughter as soon as I can.