a book about our lives

[corytburkhart]

Hi my name is cory..
I'm currently going through my own problems right now. I have a son that I miss like crazy every day and an ex I'd like to push off a cliff lol.. but I want to publish a book. I'm not a writer ha, I run a concrete pump for a living!
But I feel I need a project during this time when thing are not so well.
I'm asking each of you fathers to write me a letter telling me your story, Hopefully there's a few with a happy ending

Please send your letters to:
Cory burkhart
2926 s. Gordon Ave
Wichita, ks 67217 USA

Or you can email them to me  corytburkhart  gmail.com

Thanks guys

[ocean]

Mine would be a novel by itself....lol

[corytburkhart]

Hah mine too...hopefully you guys can keep it under 3 or 4 pages!

[MixedBag]

mine too -- and I've decided not to publish in honor of my children.  Even if I changed the names and dates just a bit, their father would twist it around again into something it's not -- lie lie lie -- and it would be another potential wedge in my relationship with my son.

I would be a millionaire, but my son wouldn't talk to me -- and guess what's worth more?

[MixedBag]

I don't want to live this....(again because he was already successful once)

[Waylon]

Like MixedBag, I'm not sure how much I want to re-live it...it would be a novel-length book.

You can read my parenting evaluation here, but it's just a fraction of the overall story:

http://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.32

I ended up with full custody. My son is now grown, serving as an Airman 1st Class in the Air Force, and is doing very well.

[corytburkhart]

Well maybe you guys are right I don't know.. or maybe I don't need people to share their stories to explain how fucked up the system really is.. or maybe not right a book.. I was just trying to think of a positive productive way to keep my mind off things.

Btw today his mother vaccinated my almost 6 month old son with all the harmful vaccines we previously said we weren't going to give him or at the least break them up into smaller shots...All at once, without my permission, without my knowledge til just now!

[MixedBag]

Welcome to "our world".....and as an NCM -- the pendulum swings both ways.  Happens to NCM's too...

Stick around -- share, vent, learn, and then pass it forward to those who are new to this.

[MixedBag]

Waylon -- A1C!!!!!  WOW!!!  Yes, it's been a LONG time....my youngest is getting married next weekend -- so one more 12 hour road trip for the family here (translation my honey, my two girls, their spouses, and 4 grandbabies!)

[corytburkhart]

What's ncm stand for?

[Waylon]

Btw today his mother vaccinated my almost 6 month old son with all the harmful vaccines we previously said we weren't going to give him or at the least break them up into smaller shots...All at once, without my permission, without my knowledge til just now!

Vaccines are NOT harmful. If you want to know how vaccines cause autism (for example), click here: 

http://howdovaccinescauseautism.com/ (http://howdovaccinescauseautism.com/)

Vaccinate your kids for their sake as well as for the sake of all the other people your children will come into contact with.

[Waylon]

The list is here:

What do all those acronyms mean? (http://deltabravo.net/cms/plugins/content/content.php?content.366)

[MixedBag]

NCM -- non-custodial mom.....yes, we exist too.  It was this site that actually helped me the mostest because I could identify with 99% of the crapola a non-custodial father also goes through with one exception.

[ocean]

Child will need all shots if they go to daycare/pre-K and def by age 5 for Kindergarten. Most children get shots before they even leave the hospital at birth.

[MixedBag]

There are ways around shots if the parents object.

I think this father's point was that when they were together -- both mom and dad agreed to "no shot" approach to life.

Now that they are apart, Mom went ahead and did it without informing the father.

I agree that a child should get shots, but I also respect a parent's decision if that's not the way they want to go for their child (though I really disagree and will say that again).

It's not about the shots -- it's about not getting told when he thought they were in agreement on a subject.

[ocean]

Very hard to get out of it for public schools. You need a religious reason to why and back it up from their church and prove they have been practicing this religion for a while. My district is very strict in last 5 years about it as children are coming in without shots and infecting other children (mostly chicken pox) so they came down hard on it.

I agree that they should do this together but really, whoever brings child to dr, you usually follow what the dr recommends and shots are given at that visit. Poster should call dr and ask when appointments are and request a remember visit phone call be place when child is coming in on a scheduled appt.

[corytburkhart]

What mixed bags said!
And I was against any of the shots just don't think that he needed them all at one time and again I wasn't informed. Also they bundle shots like dtp and mmr were my main concern as I've heard that there are bad batches occasionally with mercury, that a child that ends up autistic already has the autistic genes but those bad batches set it off...
So I and I thought, we..had agreed to find a facility that would spread the shots out and do the ones from the bundles one at a time...further, an infant doesn't need a tetanus shot I think that can wait til he's a little more mobile

[corytburkhart]

In Kansas you can get a religious waiver and it's not to hard to get from what I hear..I'm not religious

[Waylon]

And I was against any of the shots just don't think that he needed them all at one time and again I wasn't informed. Also they bundle shots like dtp and mmr were my main concern as I've heard that there are bad batches occasionally with mercury, that a child that ends up autistic already has the autistic genes but those bad batches set it off...

This simply isn't true. Please take a little time and educate yourself with regards to vaccines. The CDC (http://www.cdc.gov/), NIH (http://www.nih.gov/), WHO (http://www.who.int/en/), and other organizations have investigated this in depth and the study results are consistent: vaccines do NOT cause autism.

This kind of harmful misinformation has been spread by empty-headed know-nothings like Pamela Anderson (https://www.google.com/search?q=Pamela+Anderson&safe=off&biw=1188&bih=879&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=R1oUVIvZG8jCiQK1y4HIBw&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ&dpr=0.9), who, needless to say, has never done a shred of research on autism.

Who would you trust for accurate information- an actress from the 90's TV show Baywatch (https://www.google.com/search?q=Pamela+Anderson&safe=off&biw=1188&bih=879&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=R1oUVIvZG8jCiQK1y4HIBw&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ&dpr=0.9#safe=off&tbm=isch&q=Baywatch) (which featured mainly breasts and butts on display), or scientists who spend their lives studying brain functions and pathology?

[corytburkhart]

The people who support vaccines the most are doctors..and that a money thing and you know it... If you can prove that they don't cause it then I would be more than happy to listen..but all I hear is your opinion sir.
Btw..are you a doctor???

[BusyMom]

The people who support vaccines the most are doctors..and that a money thing and you know it... If you can prove that they don't cause it then I would be more than happy to listen..but all I hear is your opinion sir.
Btw..are you a doctor???

If doctors were out to make money be encouraging illness, they would rather people not get a vaccine.  Your "argument" has no rational basis, or rather no factual basis that a rational person could follow. 

And Waylon's not a doctor....he just owns this website.

Yeah, I hear concrete pumpers are now the leading authorities on vaccinations in our country. 

[Kitty C.]

Anyone who's over the age of 30-40 has had batched vaccinations during infancy and childhood, me and my siblings included.  What's happening now is that previous diseases that were kept at bay because of the vaccines are now resurfacing to the point of epidemic in some areas, just because more and more parents are choosing to not do it.  Makes it very dangerous for the very vulnerable in our society.  I've even heard some parents talking about being forced to home-school just to keep their kids out of mainstream school and being exposed.  And many parents cannot afford to do that when they have a two-income household.  JMO and what I've seen and heard.....

[Waylon]

The people who support vaccines the most are doctors..

That's right, because many of them have spent their lives studying illnesses and developing vaccines to combat these illnesses. And the rest of us who pay attention have seen the virtual eradication of certain diseases like smallpox due to their efforts.

and that a money thing and you know it...

Actually, I don't know that. Clinical research into autism and vaccines or epidemiology are not fields you go into expecting to become rich.

If you can prove that they don't cause it then I would be more than happy to listen..but all I hear is your opinion sir.
Btw..are you a doctor???

It's not my opinion. It's evidence based on the research of people far more qualified than either of us. Frankly if it comes down to trusting cranks like Pamela Anderson or scientists who do this for a living and who devote their lives to this research, I'll trust the scientists.

And no, I'm not a doctor and I don't have to be, anymore than I have to be a weather forecaster to know it's raining.

[corytburkhart]

Here's one for you busy mom... Bill Burr - Most Difficult Job On The Planet(ελλη...: http://youtu.be/uM4FD-8znn0
Research my job a bit then have a little respect!

And to waylon...
Oh Waylan I imagine you as a pro abort 50 year old bum hipster in Washington state that beats his meat to pics of Nancy polosi and obviously hasn't missed an episode of Oprah or the doctors since he became mister mom back in 95..go fuck yourself buddy...

I didn't get on this website to be judged on my own personal opinions, I never said I was against vaccination it was how he was vaccinated I was concerned about..even if I was anti vaccination who fucking cares! That was never up for debate it was the how it was done part that was open for discussion..fuck you and your website I'm out

[ocean]

and that is exactly why you can not co-parent with mom. If you talked to me like that, there would no conversations. First you need joint legal custody for medical decisions and mom would not get in trouble for vaccinated her child at dr recommendations. Legal custody is for major issues (surgery, picking a school) and even that if you show you can not agree most of the time the judge will make HER primary decision maker. So, use that attitude with her and court and see where that lands you....

[MixedBag]

Actually cory -- you just did that to yourself by turning this into that type of conversation.

I agree with Ocean...

I also agree that shots are an individual decision -- and I disagree with your position.

I understand that your main concern here was the lack of co-parenting.....but if you get mad at strangers here like that -- Imagine your temper with an ex-wife.

Your job to me is irrelevant -- and you'll find that touting your job in a courtroom will get you NO WHERE.  Yep, figured that out the hard way myself.  EX#3's EX geez, it's been so long ago, did she graduate high school?  But the court didn't care that I have my master's -- she's still MOM.  Court didn't care about so many things along my journey which surprised me and that lesson is something I want to pass on to others.  Like we built on to our home to have a total of 5 bedrooms and 3 baths while Mom slept in a single garage, space heater, same room as her two daughters at her parents' home -- COURT did not care.  There are so many things to learn and you're early in your journey.  Don't write this place off so fast.

[Waylon]

Aaaaaaaaaaaaand you're banned. Mostly for the language you used, but also because you're more interested in causing trouble than getting assistance.

Look at what you wrote below, and tell me that you aren't the source of most of your problems.

With your attitude you'll be lucky if you have even minimal involvement in your child's life. You seem to want to fight over minor issues to the exclusion of everything else. And if your response below is any indication of how you interact with people in your life, then it's no wonder you ended up here.

And to waylon...
Oh Waylan I imagine you as a pro abort 50 year old bum hipster in Washington state that beats his meat to pics of Nancy polosi and obviously hasn't missed an episode of Oprah or the doctors since he became mister mom back in 95..go fuck yourself buddy...

I didn't get on this website to be judged on my own personal opinions, I never said I was against vaccination it was how he was vaccinated I was concerned about..even if I was anti vaccination who fucking cares! That was never up for debate it was the how it was done part that was open for discussion..fuck you and your website I'm out

[brwneyedmom]

Cory, please just do research on vaccine safety. They are well-studied, safe for the majority of the population, and protect those who cannot get immunized due to other chronic conditions such as cancer, autoimmune disease, HIV/AIDS, and weakened immune systems.
There have been no studies linking vaccine to autism in any way.
I am a nurse who made sure my son was vaccinated; his father didn't care one way or another.
However, I had seen the effects of German measles on a child infected in utereo. He was blind, deaf, and mentally handicapped to the level of a one year old child. FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE.  His mother was infected by a child who had not been vaccinated, and she had never had the disease either.
Your ex may have gotten correct information. The sites recommended on this post are credible medical sites. Vaccines generally are free to low cost, covering the actual injection supplies and personnel who are administering the vaccine. You cannot make an informed decision based on poor information. You need accurate info before you decide which side of the fence you belong.