I am so glad that I found this forum again. This forum helped my husband and I so much years ago as we fought for custody of his son. We did eventually win, but it was an uphill battle.
Currently, the son that we won custody of is facing his own battle. Our grandbaby is one year old. He was never married to her mother, they lived together. The mother has cystic fibrosis,
bipolar disorder, ADD, OCD, and severe anxiety. She has spent 55 days in the hospital in the past year. She has had two surgeries and numerous ER visits. My husband and I have been the primary caretakers of our grandbaby - though not legally represented.
Our son works long hours. We kept the child at least 4 days a week as the mother would say she was tired or in pain. Now, she has
moved out and moved in with her mother. She and our son made a custody agreement prior to her moving out - which included my husband and I in the
shared parenting agreement. We all had it notarized. It has been filed with the court for a December 2nd hearing.
The problem is, the mother no longer wants to honor the agreement. Her mother wants it changed, has verbally stated that to me. The baby's mom is saying she was under the influence of oxycodone when she signed the agreement so it is not valid.
It appears everything we could use against them, they have figured out or someone has told them. The grandmother says her boyfriend no longer stays overnight and she has stopped smoking in the home. The mother instantly went on her FB and deleted all negative rants she has made - and that was a lot. She went to her doctor's today, including the psychiatrist who she had not been seeing.
This mother used to lay under a comforter all day - she did not like to hold the baby. She did not clean. In a year and a half, she cleaned the house maybe 3 times and claimed she had OCD and could not stand it being dirty.
I do have a copy of a paper from a
psychologist that states her mental health issues, that she is not intimidated by confrontation, and that she can be hostile and vindictive. However, this was not summonsed. I made a copy the week before she left our son of papers she had received in the hospital. She has never been put in the hospital for the mental issues, it has been for the CF and she was treated for the mental health issues during that time.
We do not have money for an attorney. As far as we know, she does not have an attorney though she has told my son that she was getting one and seeking
sole custody.
She expects my son to answer every time she calls. Tonight he was here for dinner and texted her when she called - told her that the baby was fine and that he would call her when he got home. She told him "no, you answer me now." in text. She called my phone and my husband - my husband answered. She told my son that when she calls, he is to answer no matter what he is doing.
Any suggestions?

We are very devastated as I said -my husband and I have raised this child for the most part....and we have no legal rights.