you need to GO TO THE COURTHOUSE and IMMEDIATELY file for
paternity/
joint custody whatever.
Now this is just my opinion
1. Is your name on the birth certificate?
No, you file for paternity
Yes, you file for joint custody
2. Mommy dearest is an extreme flight risk, take the first step, serve her so that at least court is in your area not whereever she takes off to when she files for support against you.
3. You need to READ READ READ READ READ, get prepared, keep documenting, spend all the time you can...
If you take action NOW, and first, you have many more alternatives and options... filing should also institute some standard "operating procedures" that will keep mom and baby in the court's jurisdiction so that you can keep in contact and institute some REGULAR visitation.
These standard procedures are in every courthouse, go visit yours, get a copy of their standard visitation guidelines, see what your missing out on!
Even if you file now on your own, to save money, you can get enough info from the web and this site to prepare the necessary petition and serve her, get the basics set up and then use your tax return if you get one to get an attorney to handle the rest.....
COME ON, dont let this opportunity pass you by, if she runs, and files in another state, guess what, you get to travel!