
Hello, I have another posting explaining the whole situation under fathers issues but thought I'd get one here to . Long story short my adopted son lived with me for 18 months while my ex and I were going thorugh the divorce, before it was finalized he went for a visit(we had moved from MN to Wa by then, with full permission) to his grandparent then his mom..after two days there he decides to live there from now on and does some snaky things to get his way on it. Anyway I actually thought it would be good for him since he had had so little contact with his mom while he lived with me(her choice not his) I thought maybe they would work through their issues..they aren't..but anyway with out consulting me(or it turns out the kid either) My ex goes into court and tells the judge that we had discussed it and we were in agreement that the bot would move back in with me right away. She starts calling me before I even knew anything about all this and demanding a plane ticket for him, I finally after about a week because he had been allowed to stay at friends until then, talk to my son..he doesn't want to move out here again, in fact says he may run away if we try to make him, he knew nothing of his mom's intention to throw him out, he thought all was well there. I don't know what her motivation is here but the poor kid was already abondoned by her once and had issues because of it. Now he isn't willing and frankly I don't feel its in his best interests to move here again, he will just make us all miserable if he doesn't want to be here. His mom also claim he has become violent in fights with her and that presents a problem with him moving here without some counseling first, I live with my fiance and her young daughter, in fact she would be the one dealing with him the most beacuse of our works scheduales...
So what do I do now, my attny I had to fire after this ordeal, he didn't even call and tell me what he had agreed to on my behalf without consulting me about any of this. What kind of legal trouble can I get in if I don't move him now? The court papers are incredibly vague no time line is given, many issues were not addressed, in my opinion very poorly written.
But again what now. He is a big almost 16 year old kid, if he doens't want to get on a plane I don't see anyway of forcing him without violence.
Any thoughts or swdvice would be appreicated..at my wits end
Martyj