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Nothing worth anything is easy
« on: Dec 16, 2004, 01:54:43 PM »
Friends and family,

After months and months of delays, my ex-wife finally had her hearing yesterday where she asked the terrorist court to steal $82,000 from me so that she can properly defend herself in the appeal.  (For those of you who don’t understand how this works, all that the attorneys had to say was that they expected to incur $82,000 in fees to defend the appeal.  Yes, that’s the way it works.  No, it doesn’t matter if they spend it all.  Yes, of course, they will find a way to spend it all.)  And, for good measure, she asked the judge to double my child support (over $1,500 monthly just wasn’t enough for her, and I guess she thought it wasn’t inflicting enough pain on me).

As expected, both requests were joyfully granted.  For those of you who may not remember, my ex-wife was “awarded” $56,000 in attorneys’ fees from me during trial.  This is in addition to the $92,000 she just paid them (which also came from my assets).  $231,000 for a divorce, all of which was paid by me (not including what I paid my 2 past attorneys).  In case you doubt the reason divorce “laws” are the way they are, always follow the money.

Yeah, it’s another kick in the head.  No, there is no defense in these terrorist courts that makes any difference.  Yes, it’s that easy to do.  No, having an attorney wouldn’t have changed the results at all (it always makes it worse).  Yes, I was completely certain that the terrorist judge would give them exactly what they sought (see e.g., my November 21 status).

What’s next?  I appeal using the same constitutional arguments that are slowing making their way to the U.S. Supreme Court (at some point, I’ll consolidate the appeals).  Does the pain matter?  No.  Only the results.  Only that I keep moving forward.  Only that we keep moving forward.  Some of the fathers who will receive this e-mail haven’t seen their children in years.  Yes, it can get worse.  Yes, I expect it to get worse in my situation.  No matter how hard many of you think that I have hit rock-bottom, I know I haven’t.  Those who haven’t seen their children in years can attest to that.  Those that have been put in jail because they couldn’t afford to pay the back-breaking “child support” awards can attest to that.

According to their laws, I am no longer a free man.  I am no longer a free man because my wife was stealing money from me without my knowledge and I decided to divorce her (among other reasons).  Yet, now she can steal money from me openly with their “laws” and their guns protecting and supporting her.  They can put me in prison at any moment.  They can require me to provide any of my personal financial information at any time on a whim.  They presume that I am guilty before I even enter their courts – guilty because I was married, guilty because I am a father, guilty because I have a job, guilty because I wanted to save for my daughter’s future.  Yet I’ve never been judged guilty of any crime.

Or, have I?  My crime is that I love my daughter.  My crime is that I want to be a responsible parent to my precious, little girl.  My crime is that I will not walk away from her when the courts and my ex-wife try to force me away.  They claim that, because of these crimes, it is in the best interest of my daughter that I hardly ever see her anymore.  They claim that, because of these crimes, my ex-wife should be allowed to steal all of my property.  They claim that, because of these crimes, I’m not allowed to have any money to buy something for my daughter.  After all, as they said:  I’m the “bully.”

Yet, I will continue to get up and stand before them, even though I no longer have my daughter, no longer have property, and no longer have freedom.  I will stand before them knowing full-well that, regardless of my pleas, logic, and evidence, they will continue to torment and torture me.  I will stand before them knowing that they will continue to attempt to isolate me from my most precious possession.  I will stand before them only with principles, courage, love for my daughter, and the strength to continue to stand.  If they need any of those things to help them make the right decisions, I will offer them freely, as I have nothing else to offer.  My ex-wife, the terrorist courts, and terrorist attorneys stole everything else.

Today, I went to see a 1-hour holiday show at my daughter’s school.  (Yes, they were wonderful.  No, I’m not biased.)  I had tears flowing from my eyes during almost the entire performance (and my daughter only sang in a small portion of it).  I gazed at them… so innocent… so pure… so happy… so looking for acknowledgment for their accomplishment… looking to the parents.  There are very, very few things I ever cry about.  Those of you who know me well know that.  Looking at them today made me cry (alright, I’ll admit it – I got into my car and bawled my eyes out).  All I could think about during the entire performance was how motivated people like my ex-wife and these terrorist judges and attorneys are to destroy these children’s lives… these innocent, pure, hungry for love children.  The pain is overwhelming, but I will continue to stand in front of these children to protect them from the terrorists.  And, if I get knocked down (like yesterday), I will get back up.  As long as my heart has one last beat, I will ALWAYS get back up.

For those of you that read this, I want none of your sympathy, as it is of no use to my daughter or me, nor to the millions of other devastated fathers and children.  Don’t write to say you’re sorry.  I don’t care.  If you want to offer anything, I want your action only. It is the only thing that counts.  It is the only thing that matters.  It is the only reason why, someday, my daughter and I will be a family again.  They have punished both my daughter and I by allowing me under 4.5 days/month visitation with her.  Until that changes, I will not rest.  It’s my job to protect her.  I will.

Having said that, I fully expect these terrorists to ignore everything I say, and everything I’ve written, as I make my way to the U.S. Supreme Court.  That’s OK, just as long as *YOU* all remember one thing, and one thing only:

…There is no such thing as visitation between a parent and a child.

- B.
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RE: Nothing worth anything is easy
« Reply #1 on: Dec 29, 2004, 09:22:03 PM »
As a TRUE father I can honesty agree with what you're saying.  The court system is set up to break a good man down.  Time and time again I see unsupportive fathers walk away scott free whereas the supportive father is taken thru the legal wringer.  I feel your pain, but dont give up.  Put it in Gods hands and He will make a way.


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