I have been through this whole thing , the first thing you need to do is post what state you are from , the types of papers you file from state to state will vary ,So You need the right information , And You will see your son !!! I went through the same thing , I made some mistakes along the way , I could write a book but I will keep it short as far as what happened , And what Is likely to happen for You ,
First All this will be concerning washington state , All things i list are what happened to me ,
Child born out of wedlock , File motion for establishment of
paternity [this is your only chance ] If this is not your child then By what You said you will want out of this if it is not your son ,
Or bypass that and file a ,
parenting plan , [repost] about parenting plans [your state]
You just need to get it filed
then You will get the results : She will be likely to make up some allegations like you are a stalker, pedophile, Abuser,
If not .you are home free take the parenting plan you get at first , It won't be much. like a couple hours per week , Likely to be supervised , If you don't have money start thinking of a perrson that will supervise,
If her allegations make a stir,, don't get excited !!! this from here on out will be standard procedure ,
I am putting this in simmple form, so it is the highly edited version
Wash state : Standard procedure is to get a Guardian ad Litem appointed by the court ;
ORDER APPOINTING GUARDIAN AD LITEM ON BEHALF OF MINOR CHILD ;
THEN ;You will talk to the GAL , Keep cool ;as a man Your bad before you start , Thinking back : I advise :don't bitch about her just say you want to see your son :
That was one of the smartest things I ever did before a commissioner :
the commissioner asked her atty "what is she saying ?
Her atty "bla bla bad guy bla bla "
commissioner : is there a GAL report? yes
GAL report say's her allegations don't check out "
[ the GAL report has to be filed with the court before they will do anything , ]
Commissioner : What is DAd saying :
My atty : [forgot ) half my stuff I told him I just want to see My son
My atty teels commissioner what I said
Commissioner smiled at me "
Her atty: dads a bad guy Bla bla bla "
commissioner : what's dad saying again
My atty : he wants to see his son
commissioner: smiles "what does he want :
My atty : Asked me what I want ; Atty was even trying to minimise my time ; I tolsd My atty "You work for me tell them I want EVERY WEEKEND"
Commissioner that doesn't work
My atty , think of something else
Me: I am self employed, Every Tuesday so I can take son to a interactive parenting class ' And every other weekend and every other thursday .
Commissioner "OK"
So I have an ok plan but
First you have to have the GAL report in in this state or they wont do any thing . And Previous to this I had to go through PAID supervised visits , But people that don't have money Have other alternatives , YOU have to have the alternative ready , Use some one from your side though or a neutral friend to both of you , the court wouldn't be likely to have one of her relatives do it so don't try , You are going to go through a process , the only way thiswill work is to Go through with it ,
the help in wash state is located believe it or not at the
child support office , ask them for a community help booklet or pamplet, here they have some out dated info But be persistant in calling the numbers with a pen and note pad ready , You will get to a low cost or no cost legal aid group , It will be most likely to be for women , BUT it is legal aid for the unemployed and they can help or point you in the right direction ,
Next call the court house , there may be court house facilitaters ; I did not get any where with them and hired an atty , next
ask the court house if they have a night that atty's help pro se or
pro bono litigants , or in other words self representing litigants go there stand in line they help when they get to you
next call youir state BAr association ask for a list of atty's that help pro se litigants, and or any info they have about any self help info on the internet , You could very likely find some one on the sparc site that is from your state that will help you the paper work isn't complicated ; this site has an area that is for pro se litigants , with a state by state guide of what to file , click on the drop down menue up above ,
remmember stay calm when you talk to all these people , and write down what they say be persistant , And make sure you get the info right , they don't care about the particulars , I have learned through this process that all this is run of the mill crap it seems very frustrating at first , But this is the process and you are in it now , the cooler you are through out the better you will fare , If the woman is the typical vendictive bitch she will try to push your buttons and make up any thing she can [My expierience ) DON'T react ot any thing any accusation or admit anything , Unless she has proof like a picure a witness a police report , the psycho in my case has pulled every cheap shot she can , I simply asked a few people questions and ran into people that know her by chance , she made this out to be a BIG deal , don't even ask or tell any one on her side any thing , UNLESS it is for sure a crime or proveable , And is a detriment to the childs well being and puts the child in harms way other then that , all personal affairs don't effect the child except like e relationship with a convicted pedophile or active drug user or something ,except for the pedophile there isn't much to really get any where , first just get an order for visits then stay cool ,
My email
g6ips3y@hotmmail.com I went through exactly what you are about to get into stay cool !!! this is same shit different guy to the court ,,don't engauge don't fight fire with fire , You are now John boy walton period ,
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