I have questions that I am hoping maybe I can get some advice with.
I filed contempt charges against my ex-girlfriend over Thanksgiving. After that everything fell apart and I knew that it would. The weekend before our court date she finally hired an attorney and he counterfiled claims against me on the morning of court so needless to say it was continued and that was March.
She came back and said I denied her visitation from the past. (Lets see she is the primary caregiver so how could i have refused her when I pick my daughter up there?)
Too,up until the point where I was not being allowed to have her on holidays we always tried to negotiate (which usually meant i did not want a fight so i gave in) so we never went by our holiday schedule until she cut me out completely.
Then she said that I was taking action and saying things to erode the relationship between her and our daughter.
1. I got upset when my daughter made reference to herself with my ex-girlfriends husbands last name and not mine. Its on everything.
2. I get upset when my daughter tells me that I do not have any right to make choices concerning her but then I am told by my daughter that she can not walk our family dog of 13 years who was raised with her because stepdad says she is not to.
3. I get upset when everything is a competition and everything that is bought for her from their house is only purchased by stepdad. Her clothes, her toys, her pets. My fiancee asked her once if mom never bought her anything and her response was mom pays the bills. All of that started because my fiancee bought her new school clothes.
So now we our going to try to hash it out in a room and if we can come to an agreement there will be no court date.
1. I feel that the only people that should be there for this meeting should be her attorney, my attorney and her and I. After all it is our daughter. My fiancee said she did not want to be there she feels that this should just be between the two of us and feels that I already know how she feels. She said your the parent not me. So consequently I do not want her husband in the room either. Am I asking too much?
I went to pick my daughter up on my Thursday night visitation, I get her from Thursday night until Sunday at 7:00pm
She informs me that normally she goes to stepdads relatives house to catch the bus but relative is going to be gone so I will have to take her to school the next day.
I asked her how long have you guys known that this was going to be the situation and her reply was for a long time now.
Do I have the right to request that she give me alittle more advanced notice I could loose my job if it happened a lot and I know what she will say then don't keep her overnight on school nights. Thats not the problem I make my own schedule two weeks at a time but I would expect my employees to give me advanced notice if they were going to be late!
She wants more
child support. Up unitl she got mad at me I had my daughter 6 days and nights out of 14. I never had the support lowered even though I could of cut it in half. I supply all clothing for her in my home and frequently buy her school clothes. I supply all medical and dental insurance and even though she is to pay like 800.00 of first part that it not paid by the insurance I have never given her the first bill. I am now making about 4.00 more on the hour when we originally started all of this but she is making more also. There is no longer child care so that is 40.00 less per week I supplied all the transportation since day one except with a few exceptions and she is suppose to pick her back up when she is receiving her. Now she is mad and comes and get her just so I can not have her overnight.
Do you think that if I can prove that I had her that much and she was doing good in school and overall that the judge would grant me back 1 overnight during the week. I would do all of the driving.
Now she is at home more and is failing in school.
Sorry so long winded but it just burns me.