Just make damn sure your
DH reminds DD (over and over again if he has to) that her wedding is HER day, NOT her mother's. I've heard of many women, having come from split homes, ask both father and SF to walk them down the aisle. If relationships are halfway decent, it at least allows her to NOT have to choose between one or the other. But if she ONLY wants her father, that is HER perogative and Mama can just take her BS and shove it.
And I've also heard of women who have walked down the aisle alone, just to keep the peace. I think it's a crying shame, since NO ONE but the bride and groom should be making any decisions about that day and they should be made from THEIR hearts, NOT by intimidation and threats. I'd like to bitch slap ANY mother who trys to dictate what her child should or shouldn't do at their wedding..........
Sorry, this is one of those issues that REALLY pisses me off.........