Thanks for all the info! We thought about filing contempt....but was told it is VERY hard to prove that she WILLFULLY disobeyed the orders. By her saying she "just cannot afford it" isn't considered willful, it's considered doesn't have the means. We know the real deal, that its just an excuse. Also, if we filed contempt, she'd get a free lawyer and we can't afford one. There are a few other minor areas she is contempt on also, which we COULD prove....such as the order states for her to provide us the grandfathers phone number since the kid routinely spends the night there. She refuses, and we have it in writing. She claims her father doesn't like dad (they've never met or spoken) based on mom's stories she has told him and doesn't want him calling his house. I know, another excuse, because if dad were able to call kid at that house, then mom wouldn't be able to listen in on the conversation. Our concern is, sometimes several days up to a week go by where dad can't get ahold of the kid. He leaves voicemails at mom's....but she doesn't have the kid call back timely, as she works 12 hour shifts at night, sleeps during the day and then the kid is sometimes at grandpa's for 4 days in a row. And even when they do get to talk on the phone, its as if the kid is distracted, and they can never talk about anything important, just "hows the weather" type of things.
Same with not putting the kid on the plane. She works a graveyard shift, claims she started a new job again and in a probationary period, and it was New Years Eve....she couldn't get anyone to work for her and no one would pick up the kid from the airport. That was her excuse even though she had a 90 day notice of the dates and times of flight. She wanted dad to pay a $100 change ticket fee and put the kid on a connecting flight that would involve getting him up at 3am. No way, we weren't doing that, not putting an 8 yr old with behavior problems on a connecting flight, that early in the morning, nor paying the fee to change the ticket for HER convenience. She didn't even offer to pay for the fee. So she told the kid that dad bought the wrong ticket and won't change it. So the kid felt that dad cancelled the trip and was very upset, so upset the school teachers even mentioned it in their letters. CM got the teacher and therapist to write letters to judge, saying what a wonderful, concerned, and involved parent she was, and that she should keep custody of kid, blah blah blah. Mind you, NONE of them have ever spoken or met dad. We have since sent emails and a letter explaining the situation, asking for suggestions in helping Isaiah cope.....so maybe they understand a little better what is going on. THe last school was so alienated against us, that they wouldn't cooperate with us getting records or anything. They out right lied and said they had no idea what school he was transferred to, and the main admissions office claims he was not enrolled in ANY of their public schools. WHich we know now that was a lie, because he is in a public charter school in their district. CM has asked the new school to provide her with copies of whatever dad requests, so she can show the court (her exact words) and that the school is well aware of him accusing her of being an abusive, unstable and unfit mother and trying to take her child away from her (exact words again). The new school has copied CM on everything they have sent us....so that part is obviously true. The school therapist has not responded on the comment we made that we think the CM exhibits alot of signs of the HAP and what can we do to help Isaiah with that....I bet they won't respond to that either because CM has them brainwashed already. She is very convincing at first, crying the broke single mother trying to do the best for her kids. But then she moves. SHe has had 13 different addresses in the past 8 years.
When we were in court in March....the judge really got on her case, had to raise her voice several times. CM kept trying to cut off the judge. And CM showed up wearing hospital scrubs! lol. Anyhow, it is quite clear the judge is very annoyed by CM....who will have to explain how she paid for her own ticket to come to court yet again rather than pay her $200 toward the kid's ticket. I know I would rather pay the $200 than face the judge again knowing she doesnt like me already.
I think I am finally developing that thick skin, as I have concluded that CM has a mental disorder of some sort. I just feel really bad for the kid. He is a grade behind for his age (at kindergarten, mom claimed he didnt know his ABC, colors, pretty much nothing at all....those were her exact words). Then he was put in special ed for kids with severe emotional disturbances, was labeled with ADHD, and has a speech impediment. I think his emotional issues have caused his behavior issues (he has done things like urinated on another boy in school, called the teacher a Bytch, gets in fights, crawls under tables, disrupts the class with constant moving and talking, won't try to learn, etc), which has impacted his ability to learn. period. The kid gets the belt for every little infraction, he's getting PASd, he's been moved around alot during his entire life - no stability, living between mom and grandpa (who also hits him with a belt), and mom has been super strict with him, not letting him go places to have fun, didn't socialize him much as a small child, etc. Oh, and the mom was reported for child abuse by her own school district, but claims it was unfounded. Of course she moved the kid from that school district right away. Mom has stated this in court papers....but that it was all TOTALLY unfounded and that kid has NEVER been abused, etc.
and she blames DAD for the kid's bad behavior because dad has not been a constant in his life...Can you believe that?! It was proven in court that she denies visitation, moved without a
court order which has limited visitation AND that she denied ALL contact for 3 years! Only someone who is insane could possibly actually believe that. That's why I say I have concluded she is just insane and full of anger.
