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dipper

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This takes the cake!
« on: Jan 14, 2007, 09:02:34 PM »
SS has not been visiting with bm.  She lied to his probation officer, in our opinion and knowledge of the facts, in an attempt to get him and thus - us in trouble.  BM has not tried to enforce visitation..she calls ss almost weekly to ask if he is coming, but does not speak to dh, does not advise of visitation schedule as required in order, and has made no attempt to pick ss up as required by her once a month.

So, last week she called and asked ss if he was coming on Friday.  He said no, we were going to Cincinnati for appt (we live in VA).  So, she says okay and hangs up.  This was on Tuesday or Wednesday.  Thursday morning she and her mom drive 10 hours one way to stay in Kentucky and show up Friday at ss' appt.    When she had custody, she took the Shriner's transportation and attended the appts.

So, she knew where ss would be when she called.  She also did not mention that she was coming as well to him.  She drove 10 hours one way for a 10 minute appt.  She called ss over to her and while he sat beside her, she was draped over him.  He is 15 and in public, she is always laying on him or has a hand on his shoulder, person at all times.

Thing is, he was not happy with her being there..he looked stunned and unhappy and she calls him over to lay on him!!  Then goes back with him and dh and takes over the appt saying ss has been working out and losing weight.  This was a lie for one...but, for another, how would she know?  

See the drama and games surrounding her!  Called him with her little game and then thought she was being cute showing up unexpected....



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RE: This takes the cake!
« Reply #1 on: Jan 17, 2007, 06:39:11 AM »
Wait, so she drove a total of 20 hours to play the "I'm the best mommy ever" charade with with the doctor?  What's the point?  It sounds like she is more worried about having people believe that she is a good mom than she is with actually being a good mom.  Poor kid, must be hard to grow up with a mom like her.  I've read some of your other posts and it sounds like you have your hands full with BM (but then I guess a lot of us do and that's why we're here).  

It may have been annoying for her, but imagine how BM must of felt.  She drove all that way, and spent 10 minutes with her kid who it sounds like didn't hide that fact that he didn't want to be around her.  Then she had to lie to the doctor, b/c she has NO idea what's going on with her child b/c she's not around him (because she drove him away.)  She probably thought she was being cute, but ended up going home feeling pretty stupid.  Serves her right.  She has no one to blame but herself.  Maybe now she can snap out of being a dumdum and start being a normal loving mom.  (but somehow I doubt it.)

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RE: This takes the cake!
« Reply #2 on: Jan 17, 2007, 09:55:30 AM »
I keep coming back to the fact that she played the game on ss and did not care about how he felt.  He was the one she called asking if he was coming to her on Friday, when she knew about the appt. and even had plans to leave out of town on Thursday morning.  She didnt mention any of that to him.  Never said she would be there....

And he is so used to her acting up in public (cursing at dh, screaming) that he had no idea what she would do when she walked in.  Once she was gone, he was back to smiling.  

And, I think she and her mom must have waited awhile .....they went out a good 10 - 15 minutes before us.  Yet, when we were walking to our car, here they come by with her head out talking to ss, "Didnt your mom ever teach you not to play in the middle of the road?"  We were in a parking deck.....She acts oblivious to the fact that he does not want to be around her.

I honestly believe she could be narcicistic (sp?).  The world revolves around her.  

 

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