Ok, the hearing was today, and neither side really "won"
Boy, ex THREW A FIT thought. She kept making wild accusations between the 2 attorneys and it finally went to court.
Ex wanted unlimited weekly contact. Now remember, there already is an order in effect that states "no LESS than every Wed, between 7 and 8 pm.
Ex was saying that she wanted day time hours, so my husband could not "monitor" calls. That is what really made us furious and laugh at the same time.
SD goes to her room or the upstairs bathroom when she calls her mother or when her mother calls her! She is totally ALONE and there is no way to monitor the calls even if we wanted to. EX said that my husband makes SD sit right next to him or stands over his shoulder, what a laugh! That is what ex does. SD has already said that she knows dad doesn't do that and offered to call her mom and tell her so. I said no, we didn't want to put her in the middle with her mom. I may ask her to write it down later, and that will be the last of it.
Sooo, what ex got: (Now remember there is only 1 WEEK left of the visit). Ex is allowed to call 3X's this week between 10-10:45am cell phone to cell phone. All we have to do is ASK that SD keep the phone charged and available, (which we do anyways) All we asked SD was that if her mom called, to let us know so we can keep a record of the contact, since we lost the records that we would have gotten from the home phone. We are not required to make SD have it, carry it, keep it on or take it with her, all that is up to SD. We let her know what the judge said (ex had already told her that she was taking us to court) and she started laughting, beccause she has no idea where the charger is and being a teenage girl's room, we could look for 2 years and still not find everything hiding there!
I can't beleive they all spent 8 HOURS in the courthouse and court because ex threw a fit over calling the house phone for one week. She is going to have a harder time reaching her daughter now, than she had before!! We are going to keep our part of the order the same, "NO LESS than Wed, between 7-8pm" because then we can call whenever we want still.
We are going to ask though that parts of the order become receiprocal. We are required to let ex know when SD goes out of town and give a place where to reach SD along with a contact number, we are going to ask that ex do the same.
Well, that is how this one ended. We have a full hearing sometime later in the year.