>Well, first off ex's attorney got a temp hearing date, but
>never filed any papers for it.
>
>Second, its not really our fight. We have our rules. We
>really think 14 is still too young to have a cell phone, she
>still isn't responsible with it.
>Also the rule is when we are home, she uses the land
>phone-this way there is proof that ex is calling and that ex
>has all the contact she wants, otherwise she lies like she is
>in court and saying she can't contact
SD and we don't give
>messages (which we give SD as soon as we get the message)
>The second rule is that SD IS allowed to take her cell phone
>when she goes out, she just has to be responsible for it.
>
>Ex refuses to give us any information if SD is not home and
>when she goes to family or friends, if SD wants to take the
>cell she does. if she doesn't we don't make her.
>
>We have the landline rule because we do have trouble with ex
>and she is the pressing the issue, not us. She has been
>claiming since before the visitation started that she could
>not reach SD whenever she wanted instead of following the
>
court order.
This is my last comment.
I would urge you to get some advice from a neutral third party. Frankly, I don't know about Ex, but IMHO, you're being extremely controlling.
For example, "14 is too young for a cell phone" is ridiculous. While YOU may not wish your daughter to have a cell phone at 14, it is not unusual to see 8 or 10 year olds with cell phones. I don't know about other schools, but at my daughter's school, it looks like 90+% of 14 year olds have cell phones.
As for the rest, just what rational reason is there for forbidding the use of a cell phone at home if you're not trying to control it. "I don't like it" or "she should do what I want" isn't a rational reason. Just what LOGICAL, RATIONAL reason do you have? On the other side, there's a very clear, logical, rational reason - she may be concerned about you recording conversations - which is harder to do with a cell phone, at least without the SD seeing it.
Seems to me that you're making a battle where none needs to exist. If you set a rule that cell phone use was not allowed after 9 pm (or whatever) or only 1 hour per day or whatever (both of these can be enforced simply by looking at the bills), that might be reasonable. But it sure looks to me like you're making arbitrary, emotion-based rules that have no logical basis and are instigating trouble.
As I said, that's my last comment on this thread.