Getting the lawyer is the first step, but the next thing that should be done IMMEDIATELY is filing contempt charges on her, since she deliberately went against the CO. But what is important here is SPECIFICALLY what your CO says about move-aways. Does it say she must 'ask permission' or that she just has to announce her intentions, so to speak? Remember that CO's have tricky wording, that 'may' and 'shall' are two COMPLETELY different things. Read it carefully.