> 1; What would you advise ?
First, most therapists want to do a good job for their clients, and that includes the child's parents. So, don't go in thinking that there may be some sort of conspiracy to withhold info from you, because you will put the therapist on the defensive.
Second, like it or not, therapists don't get paid for telling their clients that they're "all better," and my experience is that a therapist will keep a person coming back as long as that person wants to return. In the case of the child, unfortunately, it may be the parent who wants to continue the therapy, when in fact the child is bored stiff with the whole deal and getting nothing out of it (but, you'll be getting the bill).
So, what I suggest is that you emphasize to the therapist that you are only interested in child's welfare, and then ask what the therapist views the child's original diagnosis, what specific evidence of progress has been achieved thus far, and at what point the therapist will be satisfied that the problem is remedied.
Also, ask if the therapist has any specific suggestions that either parent can do to facilitate the recovery, and ask if the therapist would like both parents to come to a session.
Don't expect a precise response, because therapists are frequently very vague about what's needed (mainly because most therapists don't actually know what's needed in my opinion, and they mostly hope that they can get the child to simply talk it out and feel better as a result).
What you're trying to do is get several responses from the therapist, so that you can reasonably argue to a court if necessary, that no progress has been made and that nothing further is to be gained by the therapy.
You can't do this without several correspondences which demnstrate no progress.
Just make certain that when you write to the therapist that you are continuing to emphasize the child's welfare, rather than your own or the cost of the therapy, etc., because you don't want to be viewed as hostile to the situation -- or cheap (even though you may not be able to afford the therapy).
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>I certainly don't want to continue any thing that will be
>fruitless ;
> 2 Has there been much ever derived from useing the court
>to
>ask for ALL the records?
I don't think it's necessary at the moment, because you should be able to get a dialog going and find out what you need to know.
> 3 Should I modify the Parenting plan to say I should or.
>will be involved with counseling of my son including open
>conversations with the counselor ?
Try my suggestions first.
> 4 Or should I just drop it ?
See above.