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wysiwyg

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how to handle question
« on: Sep 14, 2006, 05:50:19 AM »
Good morning Soc!

IN here, order states that CP (BM) should provide all clothing necessary for the child while in the care of the NCP.  

In the past we have had a rich 12 year history of BM not providing athletic uniforms, special occation clothing or musical instruments for the child when he comes to us for the weekend/holidays.  She uses this situation to create a hostile confrontation during our time with the child and in front of him.  We have had everything from calling 911 with allegations of holdiong the child hostage (when she refused to give us baseball uniform and we asked her at the game for it) to not giving us the musical instrument and comeing to our home and causing a terrible scene at our door, or to undress and re dress the child in public in his uniform becasue she would not give us his uniform to clothe the child for an activity.

I (SM) have been going to get the child due to BF's work schedule, this is fine and addressed in the order.  Now that SS is in HS and in marching band he has several weekends over the next 3 months that he has competitions, tomorrow when I go to get him, I have every reason to believe that BM will refuse to give the child his uniform and instrument in order for him to have it for his comeptiton and she will use that to create some uncomfortable sitation, it has also been addressed by the GAL and the Mediator that her hostility towards me is unfounded and immature.  Therefore I believe it to be a double whammy for the child in that she will refuse to give him his things necessary for his compititions in weeks to come becasue I am there.  She has significant control over the child in order to intimidate him to not bring his things if she so demands, and is an admitted abuser in court records.  

In the past we have just said if it is not priovided and he did not want to go then he did not have to go, however, as he is older and this is for a academic grade it is in his best interest to go, but BF and I are baffled as we also believe it is in his best interests and our other child to not endure a hostile confrontation.

1. How should I handle this at the door tomorrow when I go to get him if he is not allowed to bring his things?  

Sorry to be so wordy, that is one of my downfalls in order to explain the situation...........


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RE: how to handle question
« Reply #1 on: Sep 14, 2006, 02:21:03 PM »
>Good morning Soc!
>
>IN here, order states that CP (BM) should provide all clothing
>necessary for the child while in the care of the NCP.  
>
>In the past we have had a rich 12 year history of BM not
>providing athletic uniforms, special occation clothing or
>musical instruments for the child when he comes to us for the
>weekend/holidays.  She uses this situation to create a hostile
>confrontation during our time with the child and in front of
>him.  We have had everything from calling 911 with allegations
>of holdiong the child hostage (when she refused to give us
>baseball uniform and we asked her at the game for it) to not
>giving us the musical instrument and comeing to our home and
>causing a terrible scene at our door, or to undress and re
>dress the child in public in his uniform becasue she would not
>give us his uniform to clothe the child for an activity.
>
>I (SM) have been going to get the child due to BF's work
>schedule, this is fine and addressed in the order.  Now that
>SS is in HS and in marching band he has several weekends over
>the next 3 months that he has competitions, tomorrow when I go
>to get him, I have every reason to believe that BM will refuse
>to give the child his uniform and instrument in order for him
>to have it for his comeptiton and she will use that to create
>some uncomfortable sitation, it has also been addressed by the
>GAL and the Mediator that her hostility towards me is
>unfounded and immature.  Therefore I believe it to be a double
>whammy for the child in that she will refuse to give him his
>things necessary for his compititions in weeks to come becasue
>I am there.  She has significant control over the child in
>order to intimidate him to not bring his things if she so
>demands, and is an admitted abuser in court records.  
>
>In the past we have just said if it is not priovided and he
>did not want to go then he did not have to go, however, as he
>is older and this is for a academic grade it is in his best
>interest to go, but BF and I are baffled as we also believe it
>is in his best interests and our other child to not endure a
>hostile confrontation.
>
>1. How should I handle this at the door tomorrow when I go to
>get him if he is not allowed to bring his things?  

Record the transaction, then file a motion for clarification and have court order BM to provide the stuff.

 

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