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Sure she can. She has a home and can say that its being redone to be a home for the children. Unless there is drugs going in and out of the room, basically you will just have to deal with it.

You will have to get paternity established. Even if your name is on the birth certificate some states will not recognise it if your not married. Get you a mini recorded and make sure you have it on when she goes off. If you have her making suicide threats on tape then you can call the police and they  will take her away for at least a day to see someone.

I have court next month. My daughter is in school by my house and they know what's going on. I couldn't take my other children because we are not married and custody hasn't been established.

I have custody, she is already in another school, which she is so glad. Court coming up next month.

In my state its called exibits untill the courts accept it as evidence. You also have to disclose what exibits you have in a certain amount of time frame before the court date. I would suggest getting Blacks Law Dictionary and what ever your states revised statutes are pertaining to custody. Don't just go in there with a handfull of stuff and think that just cause you have it the judge will accept it. Sometimes they will sometimes they wont. The opposing attorney could object because he hasn't been able to go over what you have.

I was able to find and get my daughter on Tuesday. The school called me and told me they has a request for records and I went to that school and talked to the school resource officers and they verified the information. My ex showed up and threw a big fit saying that the court orders was reversed and then went on to say that she never knew about them (contridicting) then said that they wasnt any good from 2001. The officer asked her if she had anything that superceded what I had and she said no. I was standing behind the counter and was waving at my other children and she got real pissy and told my children not to talk to me and jerked the stroller that my youngest was in and went out the door. Now mind you that all of this is in the police report, and the officer stated that I was extremely compliant.

Her lawyer called me a bit ago, to set a meeting before court. He told me I didn`t have a right to pick up my daughter from the school like I did. I asked him why, he couldn`t answer, just I didn`t have a right. So I asked him that since he was a judge for 19 years if a signed court order was valid, he said thats beside the point. So whats the point, he said it had to with me medically. So I asked that since I have a kidney disease that I don`t have a right to my child, he said thats not what he is saying. I asked him what he was saying and he just goes well if you can`t figure it out now you will find out when we meet. I asked him if he had a copy of my medical records he said no, I asked him if he was a Dr. he said no. Then I asked how he could diagnose me. He was getting pissed at that point and I just told him that the mother could call our daughter anytime and she knows that but hasn`t. I also asked him if it was right for the mother to refuse me to see my children and he wouldn`t answer. And I told him that she wasn`t telling him the whole truth and he would be surprised when he has the documents in front of him. She claims that she knew nothing of the divorce, and thats pretty funny when she had to show up and give me my daughter at the court room.

Since this has happened they have called the police 3 out of the 4 days to come to my house and do a welfare check. The police come and see everything is ok and leave. Now mind you she is asking that I have supervised vistation. So my documentation continues. The judge might be a little upset cause I took my oldest and had to leave the other 3 but I am willing to let mother have contact with her but she is unwilling for me to have contact with the other children.

They are asking for part of my retirement. Spousal support at $500 a month for 6 months then $350 for 5 years. Asking for supervised vistation and for me to go to counseling and anger management. And for me to pay for her attorney. I think I am going to give them a rebutal of I want child support that is backdated to 2001, her to go to a phsyc eval. supervised vistation for what she has done.

I have had permanent custody since 2001. The court never set child support and the ex never paid anything.  Could I ask for back child support till then. I do live in a different state than where the decree was made.

Patience nothing like it. I know it sucks but I have to stick to my guns on how this has to be done.

A few things I did notice. That he didn`t even notice that through the court it was converted from a dissolution of marriage to paternity and temp custody orders, even though it was stated on the courts website. He is a former judge. Since we are already divorced and I have custody of my oldest child, this is something that he is totally unaware of. Also he don`t know that there are charges pending against her at the PA office. I wonder what he is going to do when he finds out the truth. And man is she asking for everything under the sun.