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Birth information is public record.  If you know where the child was born, mother's name and date of birth you can contact the local courthouse where child was born and they'll give you that information.  They'll even tell you who is listed as the father.  Hiring a PI is a good idea to check on her background and follow her for a few days.  I wouldn't pay the PI to get the birth information when you can get it for free.
Good luck!

They normally send a letter telling you that they're going to intercept your tax return.

Lawmaker says he shares homes with 2 women
Monday, January 24, 2005 Posted: 1:37 PM EST (1837 GMT)  
 
MEMPHIS, Tennessee (AP) -- A state lawmaker who heads a committee on child welfare has acknowledged that he lives in separate homes with two women whose children he fathered.

Sen. John Ford testified in a Juvenile Court hearing in November as part of his defense in a child support case over increasing his financial support of another child he fathered with a third woman, The Commercial Appeal newspaper of Memphis reported Sunday.

The Memphis Democrat has tried to make use of a law he authored that keeps court-ordered support lower when a father is financially responsible for other children.

In the hearing, Ford said he lives some days with ex-wife Tamara Mitchell-Ford and the three children they had together. On others, he said, he stays with his longtime girlfriend, Connie Mathews, and their two children.

A follow-up hearing is scheduled for Tuesday.

Ford and Mitchell-Ford went through a bitter divorce in 2002 that led to Mitchell-Ford's jailing after she plowed her car through Mathews' home.

Ford said he pays nearly all bills for both families. They stay in houses he owns and where he also lives, though neither home is in his south Memphis Senate district.

"You have two homes?" court Referee Felicia Hogan asks during the tape recorded hearing. "Well, that's unusual."

"Not necessarily," Ford shot back. "I know people who got five."

Hogan responded: "For child support purposes that's unusual, let me put it that way then."

Ford is battling a lawsuit filed by Dana Smith, who is trying to increase his court-ordered support of their 10-year-old daughter. Smith, a former employee under Ford, won a 1996 sexual harassment verdict against him.

Ford contends that any increase for Smith should be tempered by his financial obligations to his five other minor children. None of those children is subject to child support orders.

In the hearing, Ford argued that all five children live in his household -- a household that encompasses two homes -- and because of that he is exempt from rules requiring strict proof of his financial support of them.

Hogan rejected Ford's request, saying he must produce evidence of bills paid if he wants credit to lessen any modification of Smith's child support.

Mitchell-Ford told The Commercial Appeal last week that she can verify at least some of Ford's contentions. She said she is six months pregnant, and the father, she said, is John Ford, now 62.

"John is over here every single day, if not staying here," she said.

Ford did not respond to messages left at his Nashville and Memphis offices. Mathews could not be reached.

Dayum...I've always wanted a house by the beach! LOL
I know where Bat Cave is!! Not much up there but mountains! LOL@gated driveway and big dog!

Yeah...I use that site too.  Unfortunately not all counties put their calendars online.  If I undstand Kat correctly, Currituck is one of those counties.  But heck...Currituck is wayyyyyyy out there anyway. LOL  Think it's out near the Outer Banks or in that vicinity.

The system I'm talking about is not something you can access online.  You have to go to the courthouse.  They have computers set up so you can access their system.

I've thought about doing the calculator to see what the difference would be but that will have to wait until a CSO is entered against her ex. Seems like everytime there's a new man in her life she's getting knocked up. Sounds like somebody's working the system if you ask me. The (worthless) local attorney DH used even said as much when we were in court. Direct quote: "She obviously knows the system very well."

As far as the courthouse computers go, I can do a search by party and then by county.  Say for instance, you live in one North Carolina county and I'm in another and I want to see if you have any judgments or civil actions pending. I can go to my local courthouse, type in your last name and then type in the County where you live. If there is anything in the system it will come up.  If I suspect you may have actions and/or judgments filed in a different North Carolina county I can include that county in my search.  I don't know if other States have this system, but you can do statewide/countywide searches for North Carolina.  They've had this system for about 10 years now and it's awesome!

I'll be glad to help you with anything I can...as long as it's not unethical or illegal!

DH has 2 children (7 y/o daughter from previous marriage and 4 y/o son from prior relationship).  I found out today BM of his son has filed a Complaint against her ex for custody and child support.  CS was modified in August 2003 and since DH pays CS for SD the Court "credited" him that amount when determining CS. Not that it did much good. He still pays $585/mo for 4 y/o.

My question is:  when CS order is entered for BM from her ex, can DH file for a modification to (hopefully) get his CS reduced?  Will the Court give her "credit" for the amount of CS she is receiving from her ex, in which case it may increase DH's CS and we'd be better off leaving it alone?

We are in NC.  The CSO between BM and my DH is a prior support order so this may be in her ex's favor when it comes time to determining the amount of CS he pays.  That is how DH was able to get his CS for SD "credited"...because it was a prior support order.

BM of 4/o and her ex have two children together, plus she just had another child in April 2004.  I don't think her ex is the father of this child. Situation with BM of 4 y/o and her ex is really strange.  They got married and a two kids later got divorced. For a time she had to pay him CS but they got back together and he dropped it. Apparently, their pattern was they'd live together for a while, she'd get a wild hair or something and they'd "break up".  She'd get tired of the "high life" and go back to her ex.  It was during one of these "break up" periods that she and DH had their brief relationship, which resulted in the birth of his son.  It wasn't until she found out I was pregnant with our daughter that she went after him for CS.  Imagine that! LOL  I also know that prior to their divorce in 1999, she had a DV order issued against her ex.  This was later dropped. In November of last year, I had a window of opportunity to go to the courthouse to use the computers there to do a search BM for civil actions. Lo and behold another DV order had been issued against her ex the first of November.  There was also a pending motion to return weapon confiscated due to DV order.  I was off work today and went to the courthouse to use the computers again to see if anything had happened since November.  That's when I found out that she had filed a complaint middle of December for custody and CS.

Do you ever wonder how we get ourselves mixed up with these men and their babymamadrama??!!! LOL

Intention was to get it continued to a new date.  DH works in maintenance at a manufacturing facility. They are coming to the end of a 2 week shut down. He has until Wednesday to get one of the machines up and running. If he can do that (which I think he will) he will get Thursday, December 23rd off (in addition to the 24th - 26th he'll have for Christmas). He has his daughter from 7:30 p.m. 12/22 until 6:00 p.m.  12/24.  When it has been PBFH's year for Christmas (as it is this year) this has NEVER happened.  He either had to see her the weekend before or the weekend after Christmas.  The way the parenting time fell on the calendar it is technically DH's weekend to have SD and PFBH  is trying to make it sound like she's doing it since he won't have her Christmas weekend since it's her year for Christmas.  Of course, the only reason this is happening is because she's getting a "babysitter" for SD while she's at work.
Also, even though he knew about the date and time of the hearing, he wasn't actually served until Thursday, December 16...for a hearing on Monday, December 20.  PLUS, the notice was dated October 20th!  The Clerk had told me that he was originally supposed to be in court in October but since they didn't get him served in time they had rescheduled it.  He wasn't going to do anything about it if/until he was served.  I called him on Friday to remind him to tell his boss about the hearing.  He had forgotten about it.  To make a long story short (LOL), he ended up calling the Clerk and blessing them out for not serving him in time so he could get time off from work AND for serving the babysitter. When the Clerk looked at the calendar he wasn't even on there! So...got all excited over nothing! LOL

Has anyone ever filed a Motion to Dismiss for Improper Service?  If you have please post it for me and the procedure to follow!!


Sheriff served Order to Appear and Show cause for Failure to Comply with Support Order and Order to Produce Records and Licenses last night. Court date is Monday, December 20 at 9:30 a.m.  DH and I weren't home.  DH's Uncle was there babysitting and he accepted service.  Under N.C.G.S Rule 4 (j)(1)a. Process - Manner of service to exercise personal jurisdiciton. In any action commenced in a court of this State having jurisdcition of the subject matter and grounds for personal jurisdiction as provided in G.S. 1-75.4, the manne rof service of process within or without the State shall be as follows: (1) Natural Person. -- Except as provided in subsection (2) below, upon a natural person: a. By delivering a copy of the summons and of the complaint to him or by leaving copies thereof at the defendant's dwelling house orusual placeof abode with some person of suitable age and discretion then RESIDING therein; or......

DH's Uncle does NOT reside with us so therefore service was improper and not effected.


Thanks!!

"sometimes it just feels like these support enforcement agencies are like some giant monster that chews you up.... especially when you try to talk to them... you are immediatly the criminal"

You hit the nail right on the head!