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So sorry about sd's step dad. I read about it on Soc's board.

Congrats on the new guy and baby in dd's life!

Hmm...a lawyer/shrink...would make a good GAL.

Take care and don't be a stranger.

They are right, without a court-ordered parenting plan, you can't just take the child, even if you are the father. She has custody.

While it's good you signed the paper, all that does is give you the right to file for parenting time. Some states still require a DNA test as well. You can verify that at your local courthouse or get a consult with an attorney for little or no cost.

I'm glad you documented the incident.

Did you file a police report on the assault? You don't have to press charges if you don't want to, but you should have documentation of it. She was holding your son!!

Unfortunately you were wrong to try to withhold the child from her. As an unmarried mom, she has automatic custody, and since you have not proven paternity (or have you?) or sought custody/visitation with the court, you have no rights to him.

I wish you two could have kept things friendly. Just keep in mind, she is abusive.

It took 9 years too long. Longer probably.
How old is she now?

CF!!! So good to hear from you!

Sorry about the loss of your brother. Glad to hear you quit smoking!

I think you know we had son's boy for about 18 months. Son took him back last fall when he took up with his present GF, she is so good to both of them. Both are working hard now because son bought a house and they moved in a couple of weeks ago. Great neighborhood in his school district, on a quiet cul-de-sac where he can ride his bike. He is 7 now!

BM just got home from a month in jail for non-payment of support. She is working and they have a garnishment order on her, son should get some $$ soon. It's only taken 3 years...sigh...

My other grands, who live with their dad, are doing great. They are now 9, 8 and 5. Their mom, my dd, is still down south and has been into some bad things and we rarely hear from her. I hear she'd doing better now, I hope so.

I sure hope you can get in chat soon. We miss you and all the great times there. I think you have my email addy.

Take care and talk soon.

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please read the articles here, especially First Aid.

If you leave the child with her, she will likely stay there because the judge will figure you didn't see any danger in that and the status quo will be set.

Get any court/police records on this guy.

Did I mention to read the articles here?  :) Good luck.

Get a good pair of hiking boots!

All the best to you.

ps...nice to see all the old-timers coming out of the woodwork. Let's chat sometime!