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My daughter is 4. Yes I feel as if I did get screwed in court, but thankfully we haven't been to the main trial yet. At the temp. visitation hearing I was given every other weekend visitation (daughter's mother didn't show up). We were not able to present evidence of who had been primary caregiver, etc because this was only a 15 minute hearing. My second hearing was just a status hearing where the judge set the trial date. My custody hearing is not scheduled until OCTOBER! I am setting another temporary hearing in order to get increased summer visitation. Heres a little background in my situation

My daughter's mother and I were never married, we had been dating since our teens once my daughter was born her mother was quick to resume her partying lifestyle. I was always there for my daughter. We broke up when she was 18 months old at which point she moved to her mothers house in MD and refused to let me spend time with my daughter for two months. After two months, she moved back to VA and she came to my home and dropped my daughter off and said "here you deal with her now". My daughter lived with me for six months and her mom would come visit her at my house every once in awhile. At this point I told her mother I was going to take her to court for custody and she quickly began spending more time with our daughter. We worked out a verbal agreement in which we would have our daughter equally. This didn't last because she quickley began calling me on her scheduled days to take care of our daughter because she wanted to go out. I have always been there for my daughter and put her first.
I got married about a year ago and I now have a son. My daughter's mom (BM) never used to have a problem with my wife being with our daughter, in fact she frequently would call her when I was at work and ask her to watch her daughter. Me and my wife were the ones who always picked herup from the babysitter. When my wife went on maternity leave last year she also began watching my daughter every day. So my daughter was at my house almost every single day. When it was her mom's scheduled day she would pick her up around 8:00pm.
Well out of nowhere in January BM said she was moving to MD. We had a verbal agreement to switch off week by week so we could each spend equal time with our daughter, well once she got my daughter she called me and told me she and her mother had decided to enroll my daughter into a russian preschool (they are russian) and I could now only see my daughter on the weekends. I decided at that time I would file for custody because I refused to be a weekedn visitor in my child's life. Well the first weekend came around and she called on Friday and told me I needed to give her my daughter's social security card and birth certificate and i told her I would gladly make her copies or fax them where ever she needed them to go, but I would not give her the originals (my lawyer advised me not to). From this point on she refused to let me see my daughter at all. I would drive to Maryland every week trying to see my daughter. I took quick action and filed for temp. visitation. We got a trial date two months later and I was given every other weekend.
BM refuses to provide me with any information what so ever regarding my daughter, she will not tell me where her daycare is, when her doctors appts. are or anything. She won't even allow my daughter to speak with me in the phone.
It is truelly sick what this girl (she cannot be called a woman) is doing to my daughter. How can someone put a child through this just because of their own anger. She is hurting my daughter so much. My daughter crys when she has to go back with her mom every time. My daughter went from seeing me almost every single day to not being able to see me hardly at all. I believe one of the reasons she is doing this is simply jealousy over the fact that I am married and have another child.
I have filed for primary physical and joint legal custody. As much as BM has put me through, if I do win, and if BM decides to move back to VA I would be willing to work out a 50/50 arrangement with her, because my daughter deserves that and I will not let my own anger get in the way as she has.
Isn't Winchester pretty close to Frederick, MD? Do you know of any good PI's in that area?
Sorry for rambling on, there is just alot to say. Please tell me about your case as well and your experience with the courts?

Hello, I am currently going through a custody battle with my ex (never married). I am in Fairfax county, what county are you in? I am trying to get my daughter out of the bad environment she is in and things have not gone my way so far. I was finally able to get a temporary visitation order for every other weekend after my ex did not let me see my daughter for two months. I have been my daughter's primary parent since birth, her mother was always worrying about partying instead. I recently got married and had another child and I think that is what set her off.

Anyone else have experience similar to this? My daughter is in a language preschool because her mother and grandmother wants her to learn their native language.
Does anyone think at the cs hearing I would be made to pay for part of this? I was not consulted at all on the decision and it is for her to learn their language? The preschool is taught completly in Russian, no english spoken. I am worried my daughter will not be prepared for elementary school if she is being taught only in Russian.

Do some states have limits on the amount a parent can be made to pay for daycare?

It is preschool, but it is an extremly expensive one. I know BM is going to claim that she has been paying for this, but her grandma told me herself she was paying. Even paying half of this alone would be over 25% of my income and this is not including regular child support. Not to mention I have an infant son at home.

split the cost of this costly daycare? or allow me to locate a regular reasonably priced daycare and split the cost of that?

The daycare she is enrolled in is a language school (specific to mother's culture), it is not a regular daycare. My feelings are that if it is so important for her to learn this language, why not teach her at home instead of spending tons of money on this school. My daughter speaks spanish as well because that is what I am and I have taught it to her. Will the fact that it is a language school have any bearing on whether or not I have to pay for it?

My daughter's mother has enrolled her in an incredibly expensive language school for daycare. I filed for custody a few months ago because out of no where she stopped letting me see my daughter (please note I have been the one to raise my daughter 75% of the time, so this came out of nowhere). She has told me she has filed for child support in her new home state (only been there 3 months). My question is if I am made to pay child support will I have any say in the daycare my daughter is in? If I were ordered to pay half of this it would be over half of my monthly income gone just to daycare. There is no need for her to be in this expensive place (right now her grandmother is paying for it because her mother cannot afford it). When she was with me, her aunt watched her and she only had to be there 5 hours a day.

Hello,
I am not sure if you remember my story, but I am a father who was recently granted primary physical, joint legal of my child. I have had her on my insurance for the past 2 years. BM has continually refused to use this (in emails) and continues to use medicaid for her. Even now after I received custody, BM just took our daughter to same doctor this week with Medicaid. I told BM weeks ago that I would like to switch her doctor to one near my home that accepts my insurance and asked again for her to please stop using medicaid.

1. Is she commiting Medicaid Fraud?

2. Should I contact someone about this (Medicaid office directly and ask them to stop coverage and explain situation)?

3. If I report this, even though BM has refused to use my insurance, would I be required to reimburse the state?

4. If BM is found guilty of Medicaid Fraud would this help me at our appeal trial (by reducing credibility)?

Hello,
I am not sure if you remember my story, but I am a father who was recently granted primary physical, joint legal of my child. I have had her on my insurance for the past 2 years. BM has continually refused to use this (in emails) and continues to use medicaid for her. Even now after I received custody, BM just took our daughter to same doctor this week with Medicaid. I told BM weeks ago that I would like to switch her doctor to one near my home that accepts my insurance and asked again for her to please stop using medicaid.

1. Is she commiting Medicaid Fraud?

2. Should I contact someone about this (Medicaid office directly and ask them to stop coverage and explain situation)?

3. If I report this, even though BM has refused to use my insurance, would I be required to reimburse the state?

4. If BM is found guilty of Medicaid Fraud would this help me at our appeal trial (by reducing credibility)?