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I would find a VERY good and experienced family law certified lawyer.  This is the only way anything will get done.  I think that you should also try and research laws about your case.  I have never heard of anything like this so I really do not know where you would start.  

CPS that I have been working with in my county are very cooperative.  If you feel that you have a problem, contact the case workers direct supervisor.  Or Contact Commissioner Carey D. Cockerell at the TDFPS.  Phone Number 800-720-7777 and ask for Amii Leiner.  She is very helpful and will explain what she thinks you should do.  This is also called the Ombudsman Office for FPS (CPS).  

Thank you, I will try tomorrow!

AggieDad

State: Texas
County: Brazos

I have Temp sole custody with a TRO until Thursday.  We are having a hearing for temp. orders.  We have court in Brazos county and we live in an other county with the child.  

The attorney has asked us to find a supervision center that will take bio-mom and gp's.  The problem is, is that I can not find one in our area.

Questions:

1. Is there a website that I can go to to find centers that offer supervision for non-custodial parents in certain counties in Texas?

2. Do you know any agency's that offer these services in general, other then CPS (surprisingly they are of no help to us at this time - says our case worker)?

 Thanks,
Aggiedad

I talked with the sec. to our Judge.  She said a submission hearing is their way of keeping track with the papers that need to be signed in a timely manner.

So if something was submitted five days ago and needs to be signed by today...they post a submission for today at 8:00 a.m.  

She said that most courts do not do this, but they do.  Very INTERESTING.  I told her it scares people who do not have a clue about the legal system.  She said that she gets that often.

Thanks again for always helping out,
Aggiedad

Honestly, you are the fifth person I have talked with about this and they too have no clue.  

I have called my attorney and she is currently in court and will get back with me.  

I will let you know if she can tell me anything worh posting for your records.  

Thanks,
Aggiedad

I have filed a motion to modify in Texas with a TRO. I have custody. We have had scheduled hearings that have been changed due to attorneys schedules.

I looked on our justice website this morning concerning our case and the following was posted:

Hearings
05/12/2006 Friday 11:00am TEMPORARY ORDER
05/22/2006 Monday 8:00am SUBMISSION
05/25/2006 Thursday 8:30am TEMPORARY RESTRAINING ORDER

Questions:
1. What is a Submission Hearing?

2. Should I have been there?

Thanks,
Aggiedad

I have had some time to talk it over with several poeple and I have decided to change my mind.  I realize I was pretty adament, but something else has happened as well.

Her mother and grandmother do not want to raise her.  Her grandmother said that they can not offer her the life that I can. (money wise and school related possibilities).  So now what.  They said they are wanting to change their ways because after heaing all the people talk from the hearing, it opened their eyes to what they are doing to the child.

Now we have been down this road before and it has gotten us no where, so we will see.  I am going to try and take her to a better therpaist.

Thanks for the help.
Aggiedad  

This is how I feel. THere is nothing that I can do anymore.  My wife is a teacher, and she has seen through her eyes that some kids just will not make an effort to change and are "a lost cause".  

I have beant over backwards.  I have rules in my house and my daughter does not abide by them.. She can not spend the rest of her life in her room being punished.  This is where we are.  She is on a daily basis picking fights with my wife, her siblings, and other children she is around.  

It is hard.  But she is unhappy and identical to her mother.  They can live in misery together.

The parts that rreally hurts, is that she would rather live someplace where she does not have her own room and own place to sleep then her at my house where she has her own room full of things, love, and a stable life.  I have given her eveything she "needs" but not wants.

Some children need to be with thier mother...no matter how sick they are.  All i can do is pray at this point that god will watch over her and that someday she will udnerstand.

I asked God to give me a sign on what I need to do no yesterday.  As i was walking out of the courtroom, I got the phone call from my mother in law stating what my daughter had done to another child (let me remind you she did this to my child an another one within the last couple of months).  To me that was it.  He was telling me I have done my all, I can no longer protect her from their twisted home life and lifesyle and Ihave to choose between my family and her.  Well I have choosen peace and my family.  

Thanks for the support.  Vindictive women (I am not a woman hater) in general make life He** for people like me who just want peace.  I would love for my daughter to go down there, be kept safe, visit with them, and return.  But I am battling a child, her mother, and grandmother plus their tainted life style of drugs and abuse.  I surrender.  I am not strong enough to endure this pain any longer.  

Aggiedad

There is nothing to appeal.  We have researched it and talked with her about it as well as my cousin who is a DA in Houston and we have nothing to base the "alleged sexual abuse" on.

If she had said it was a man, his nuts would be on a platter by society and by me.  But because my daughter has made up stories in the past (and admitted to lying) the judge made the decision to just slapp them on the wrist.  I can not live like this anymore.

I want my life back, this is a very hard decision, but she will never be happy here and will make my life miserable until she gets what she wants.

Aggiedad

My attorney was awesome.  She did everything she could...objecting, questioning, pulling out all the evidence.  She has a CASA worker and she gave her recommendations as well as the therapist that they need supervised contact only and the judge did not pay attention or listen.  

When he gave his final saying....the case workers and people listening in the audience we at a loss.  One woman who I had no clue who was she was crying because of what the Judge had to say.  

I realize she is only 7...but the flip side to that is, she is only 7 and looke what is happening.  She will be pregnant by 12 or in Jail along side her mother.  No matter how myc hmoney and time I have I can never change her thinking, her mindset...nothing.  

I am going to allow her to stay with their family for the summer.  I am not going to exercise my summer visitation and see how it effects me and my family.  My wife is supporting this issue, even though I know my mind will not change.  

I know it looks like I have made this decison overnight and in reaction to what happened yesterday.  But I have been thinking about this for a year now.

My daughter is not happy unless I am buying her elaborate things and taking her by herself someplace.  She is always picking on my other children and causing problems because she does not feel that she fits in in my family.  I have tried to make her fit it as well as my direct family and in-laws...but she chooses not to participate or be an active member or cause a big stink to where we have to leave family gatherings.  She is old enough to know what she is doing.

I have had several people in association with this child tell me that she is very manipulative and good at what she pulls (this is mainly fromm school personel and friends of parents).  She can not even go to friends houses any more because I am scared of what she is going to pull, steal, and lie about.  THere is a lot more issues than what I have let on.  I am just giving her what she wants...to be with her mom.  


If someone could gaurantee me that everything will get better, than I would change my mind.  But no one can.  I have been hearing that it will only get better, but in three years it has only gotten worse.  I have lost my house, my mind, and almost my marriage over this and I  can no longer do it.  I have given it an honest effort, but the law will not take action and my daughter will not put forth the effort to try and be happy here and get along.

Aggiedad