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The first thing to do is consult with a lawyer and get paternity established. Is your husband sure the child is even his! If not get a DNA test. Then go from there. If the child is his he would more than likely be obligated to pay the back child support.

Thanks for your input. Of course there is never enough time in the world when it comes to spending time with my children!

We do have an attorney, but they're not the greatest. I actually have more parenting time. It is alternate holidays, and it's week at Christmas, two weeks in the summer at my home, as well as two weeks in his home state. The evaluator did say that I should go out there for the shorter breaks (ie Thanksgiving) After 1st grade he'll get to spend his spring break here as well and half of his summer break. Part of the reason why they suggested this is because he is so young. I thought that it was pretty reasonable considering the basic visitation guidelines and the distance between us now, but am I wrong?  Do you think that's not reasonable? Of course for me I would love to have my son all the time, but I'm so happy to finally have something. See since I moved his mother limited my contact. When we lived closer I had him every other weekend and some times during the week and I didn't have any access problems. Also, I have been keeping a journal of the times that she has allowed me to speak with him and when she allows me to see him, as well as any issues that we may have. I started keeping it a few years ago just because I knew that it would probably lead up to this one day.  Thank you for your input!

okay here's the deal i've been fighting with my ex that i never married about custody and parenting time with our son, my wife and i moved two states away for work, and when i moved she started to limit contact and would not let him come and visit, so we just got the home study done and the report suggested that we share joint custody and she have primary physical and i get my parenting time this christmas and two weeks out of the summer until he's done with 1st grade and then my time will increase. i'm happy that i went from no parenting time to at least something. one of the big issues is that she was trying to convince our son that her new husband is his dad and encouraging him to call him dad, that all came out in the home study as well as her limiting contact with me. the home study evaluator suggested that our son do not call her husband dad, but the evaluator did not think she was trying to alienate him. also now that she got the home study report she hasn't been picking up the phone when i call so i can talk with my son. she also is moves constantly and is in and out of her parents house, i don't understand how this can be considered a home base for my son or stable for that matter. we have court in a few months for the judge to decide the final decision, should i bring up her recent actions of not picking up the phone and moving again, and do you think because of this and what the home study said about her limiting contact, will the judge decide to give me more time?

thanks for your input. there's really nothing else to the story. she broke it off with me shortly before she had my son, i've been begging her since he was born to be a part of his life. at first it was on and off and then it was more frequent that i got to see him. as soon as i moved and i realized that she wasn't going to work out visitation, i decided to take her to court to help establish that, i think i was mainly worried i still wouldn't get visitation because he's young and i was the one who left which was for better employment  for my wife and i and ultimately a better living situation which is providing security for me and my family. my son asks to come to my house and wants to see me, he also asks about his siblings and wants to see them too.

I recently moved to another state (12 hours away from my child) for work. I've never been married to my ex and there was never a custody order established only a support order. I've been on time with support and while living in the same state as my ex I saw my son, but only on her terms.  My wife and I provided a very stable environment when he would come and stay at our home.  I've been asking her for the past two years for a visitation schedule, but she has never agreed.  Now that we moved I decided to take her to court to get some kind of visitation. She claims I can see him whenever if  I'm in the same state, but the last time I went back she didn't allow this and only lets me talk to him on the phone and now she's is trying to convince my 4 year old son that her husband is his father. What are my custody rights, will I get a reasonable visitation schedule, and will he get to come here?

 A home study was ordered by the other parent. We live in one state and the other parent and our child lives in another. Does the person who does the home study have to come to where we live or can they find someone local to do our half of the home study. We were also informed this could cost up to 4500 dollars! Is the cost of the home study split between the parents?