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hm... well thank you for that information! i STILL have yet to be able to get through to the IRS, so at least this will get SOMETHING moving. thank you again!

i thought it said who had him the longest out of the year of both parents had him over 6 months?

so since i had the papers ready to go, i took them to someone to get the legalized things done, and gave them to someone i know personally, had him served at work tonight since thats the only place i know where he is.. and guess what.. he lost his job. thank you guys so much for listening to me...i think i need another forum since i've heard mostly nothing but 'your wrong' on here... and when i told you guys something of how it would be... you told me i was wrong, i followed the advice.. and now he's fired... which is going to look horrible on me! thanks a f***ing lot!

my ex claimed our son on his taxes this year. he's had him a total of about 1.5 months out of the year by himself last year, and i've had my son 5.5months out of the year, the rest of the year, we were together. according to the IRS website, he had no right to claim him, i did, but my taxes just got denied. i know i need to appeal it, but how do i appeal it, what kind of documentation is needed, and what are my next steps? i can't ever seem to get through to the IRS to ask these questions.

unfortunetely, no i don't have time.


and i'd love to serve him at work, but per his work's policies, it's automatic termination, and i'm not looking to screw him over by any means...

i just want a better life for me and my son. and i've ALREADY stated once that he'll get fired if i do that. i've already called and spoken to his boss about it. i was told to NOT have anything served to him there or he'll loose his job.

the company policy for sonic is that personal mail does NOT go there, or it's automatic termination.

and i have tried looking address's up online and nothing is listed that i could find.

NONE of his family will speak to me and he will not have ANY contact with me what so ever. i've tried regular email, facebook, i don't know his number so i can't text him, i've tried everything and none of his family will speak to me to give me their address either so that i can send it there. i can send it to sonic where he works, but that would risk getting him fired and i don't want that to happen.

if i have to put in the newspaper i will, however, i know he doesn't read the newspaper, so it would be a waste of time/space and money for the space in the newspaper. i'm contacting the court house tomorrow, i was unable to get through to someone today for some reason.

legal section of the classifieds? as in the newspaper?

thank you gemini, that was all i wanted.

bloom, the job is a definite, i already have a note from the manager stating that the job is mine to present if it has to go to court. i keep asking the father for his address, as he refuses to give it to me, so according to state law from what i've researched, i have to send the letter to the last known address, if i get no response in 30 days, i'm clear to move, correct? i've even recorded proof that he refuses to give me his address.

i would LOVE to come to an agreement with the father, but the truth is, he wont. he's 23 with the maturity of a 12 year old. no, i'm not trying to bash him, i'm being honest. i've got records and records of neglect and emotional abuse as well as the DR. records and the SRS/CPS records of EVERYTHING. i'm not scared of taking him to court by any means, i'm just wanting to get out to make a better life for my son.

i want the father to be around. i grew up without my father and it was horrible, but i don't want him to go through what he's going through now for the rest of his life. if his father could show me he can be a man and take care of his responsibility, i would have NO issue sending my son back to see him every summer and for holidays and what not.

the 'new mexico blue sky' thats been referred to, is by no means a hand out, but it's a start. i have a job waiting for me. it's not perfect, but it's a paying job, with a stable home. and unless the owner who has lived in the same house for the last 20 years suddenly stops paying for it, there is a guarantee it's there. yes i understand that many of these types of moves don't work out as planned. most of the time statistically speaking, the person moves with no job waiting, no permanent home, and no moral or emotional support thats waiting for us.

in most cases yes, it's best for the child to be near both parents, but we have so much put up against the father that the lawyer we previously spoke with said we had plenty of evidence of neglect from the lack of medical care which was astounding, to the lack of nutrients. the child lost 3lbs in a 3 week period, and yes, we have doctors records to prove that. a growing child doesn't loose 3lbs in 3 weeks from eating. he looses it from not being fed.

and i've been trying to find work for 6 months now in kansas, and i'd LOVE to just make it work, but it's not happening. i don't have the experience necessary that most jobs want, i.e. a year or more experience in XX field. i'm 21 years old, and yes, i've obviously made mistakes. looking back at my mistakes, they were not in any way shape or form detrimental to my son, but has put me in a tough spot. i have an opportunity to make a better life for my son and for me, and to save him from a neglectful father and if a court system is going to rule that a child who lost 3lbs in 3 weeks from a neglectful father who just flat out wasn't feeding him, then our court systems are completely f*****!