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it has the exact name of both city in the document for drop off, there is no pick up, only drop offs for child.   We didnt put a moving statement on the clearification.  I like the Ocean's response.  It's the most reasonable.  Ex wont like it tho. 

Thank you for the help!!

My Ex moved and our clearification document says the town he used to reside in.   It is farther away and nearly impossible to make the time on the document due to traffic.  Doesnt my ex have to get the clearification parenting plan updated through the court before I am made to drive further? 

Thank you for any assistance.

I found to be as boring as possible in emails.  I often use the same response over and over again.  So far this method has worked.   I constantly ask myself is child bothered by this or that, more often the answer is no.  So I don't counter.  Last email was a doozy, and I took some time to respond to get professional advice before I responded, i thought there was some kind of abuse going on, but it was just a parenting tactic they used, nothing I would do, not abuse just different.  Glad I waited and asked. 

 

sounds like teeth molers, does the child have a low grade fever?  This will pass, sounds like you are doing all the right things.

I am child focused, I follow the court docs but I like help tho too, No harm asking,  if he cancels or says no, thankfully it doesnt bother the child, I take her.   

Exactly! The child does not seem to be bothered by her father canceling his time and me taking her to stuff.   

Thank you for this post, it is helpful.  I took the phone  away due to bad grades child was not allowed to contact anyone but me the cp.   Nothing in the court docs say anything about contacting parent while with the other parent. only lasted a week, child brought grades up all is well again.  but thank you for the heads up guys.

I wish I had that relationship.  I have invited ex and his wife and family to activities, I stopped inviting since they brought up in court as a flaw, I had no other agenda except to have fun for the child.  He created the distance and has step kids, wife (about 1.5hrs)   I ended up taking her to the activity, he canceled his time.  We had fun.  No worries. 

I thought  to let him know she wanted to go,  him to take her to social activity to see her school during his time with the child,  see art up on the wall, meet friends and other parents.  I was wrong.  Doesn't seem to bug the child he didn't go and canceled his time, so that is good.

Thank you for the post, i try to be considerate of his time with his family.

I always ask the other parent via email before giving any answer to the child or even tell the child that I'm asking for the request. 

Non Custodial parent question, would you consider doing something with your child wants to do during your time? ie social event at school?  When I talk to other non custodials friends of mine, they don't see this as an inconvenience or unreasonable.

Thank you for the read!

wow!  Great points!  I appreciate the thoughts and will explore every one of them. 


thank you for your post, it is greatly appreciated!