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« on: Jun 29, 2007, 12:53:27 AM »
>Im in IL ex is in FL-
>
>child support for ME when ex had custody was set at 301
>bimonthly at me making approx. 25,000 gross per year.
>
>NOw that I have custody ex makes 24000 a year and pays 0.
>
>So right now I've had custody for almost 7 months. Right now
>my daughter is visiting her grandparents and MAYBE mom for the
>summer 2.5 months. When I didn't have custody the visitation
>was reversed and I had my daughter the entire summer. Child
>support FINALLY stopped being taken out of my check on JUNE 1.
> So my ex got child support when custody was mine from jan 1-
>june 1 totalling approx. 1500 dollars. not a lot, but still.
>She was supposed to send back any checks received from the
>state depos. YEah right that never happened.
>
>When I first filed for divorce 6 years ago. I also filed for
>child support (for my ex). It was set. Ex was mad that it
>was only 140 a month. But I worked at walmart and only mad 9
>per hour and worked 25-32 hours a week. When I lost the first
>custody fight shortly after I went into walmart management and
>made approx. 32000 a year. Ex went immed. for a child support
>mod and it was based on a year starting fromt he date filed so
>child support was set at 301 per month for 25000 a year.
>
>During this time I lived in a 300 square feet eff. apartment
>with my new wife paying only 250 per month in rent. When my
>daughter came to stay with me and my wife got pregnant I
>upgraded into a modest home 860 sqare feet with mortage
>payment of 500. It was diff. to pay all bills with child
>support but I budgeted around it.
>
>NOw that I have custody. Ex has not sent ANY money and child
>support was set at 0 because she had no job. Well she got a
>job about 3 months ago and makes 25,000 a year, but my lawyer
>doesn't want to go after child support because :
>
>1. ex got evicted for not paying rent (her name is not on
>lease only her husband) and she's living from hotel to hotel
>and at her sisters.
>
>2. it will make me look bad taking money from her
>
>3. She's on medicaid
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>4. she has an infant son.
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>5. She's broke
>
>6. Has no cell phone or any phone because her bill got too
>high and she couldn't pay it.
>
>S0 here's my question.
>
>1. Why the double standard? HELLO I made 25000 lived in a
>300 sqare foot home, had an infant, paid for ALL unpaid
>medical benefits resulting in hospital debts in the 1000s BUT
>was GOOD with my money and budgeted well.
>
>Here she was living in a 1200 dollar a month apartment, spends
>hundreds monthly on manicures and clothes, tans daily, had a
>nose job, basically blows her money having no sense of adult
>responsibility. Her husband is a pilot making 60000 she makes
>25000 she shouldn't even be getting medicaid, but is. But
>because she is horrible with money all her own fault she's not
>held responsible for her daughter and shouldn't pay child
>support. Why? if it were me they'd nail me to the wall
>milking every dime they could!
>
>
Personally, I would fire the lawyer, get a new one and file for child support. Your child deserves it. And if there was a court order that stated that your ex was to give you the checks back, I would pursue that as well.