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Calm down. I hate court too, but it seems like its in the best interest of your son and thats all the court cares about. She ABANDONDED him, she willingly left and doesnt seem to care to have a connection with him. It sucks, yes, but you've stepped up. How old are you? I don't know if that will come into play. What state are you in? If its Michigan I may have more information for you. You seem to have a lot of support from your mom, sisters, and the grandma, accept it and use it. Its emotional and brutal, be glad you have so many people who are rooting for you and there to help you.

Phone contact-Send your daughter home with your number or better yet ..make it into song and have her memorize it! LOL Inlaws got her a calendar for xmas and my wife put our phone number  on every page! lol
Do you both have a computer? Set up a web cam for her to see you. X flip flops on computer use. says she has one then says she doesn't. i have no idea. Send her home with a sparc card that allows your daughter only to call you and use the minutes or a cell phone (kid one that only has parent number and 911) my mom got her one of those when they moved and she did NOT even think of programming my number in it. i have not been given the number, despite, yet again, the CO saying i am entitled to EVERY number to reach my kid at. x and i had to sign an agreement that said we would do it, obviously she hasn't.

What is the $2000 bond for? I have never heard of this....the bond is because she doesn't follow the court orders. she actually kept my daughter away from me for over 14 months straight bc my mom talked bs about my wife and the ex and my mom are best friends (yay). she told her that my wife is a child abuser and manipulates and brainwashes my daughter. it couldnt be farther from the truth. my daughter and wife adore each other. the ex cant stand it so she tells her things like stepmom hates you etc.
YOu can file contempt yourself for the THanksgiving visit but she made it up to you at christmas so I do not know if you will get anywhere with that...Filed them before and she got a slap on the wrist and was told not to keep her from me again. I think what i really need is a new judge and moderator. how do i do this?? i really don't know what to do here. my daughter kept telling us how unhappy she is in TN and how much she loves being here in MI with us. the court  wont' listen to her, shes 7. her mom tells everyone how much baby girl loves it bc she loves it. she doesnt care our kid is unhappy so long as she is. i feel helpless and it makes me angry. i cant even console my daughter, let alone protect her.

got an email back from the lawyer. there isnt anything she can do bc of the amout we owe her currently. this sucks. i wonder if i would have a good chance of succeeding in getting my daughter if i pursued the matter without the attorney. any advice tips suggestions?? anything?!?!? lol

i don't know. mine keeps telling my 6 year old that she doesn't have daddy's phone number then calling me while the kids away. also does not give daughter the mail i send her either. i do know in my case though, that shes violatiing the co again...too bad the court wont do anything about it.

i think my lawyer is blowing me off. my ex has gotten permission from friend of the court to move our 6 year old daughter from MI to TN with her, provided she allow her "adequate phone interaction" with me. well, we missed the thanksgiving visit because her mom said the car broke down in kentucky so i got her for christmas instead. during that visit, my daughter told me "my mom says she doesn't have your phone number," now, i know she does, because she has called me on it many times since they have moved. and most frequently she does it when she says she is at work so i can't talk to my daughter. she's not keeping me informed on my daughters daily life, where she is, etc. my daughter told me that she tells her mom she wants to call me almost daily when she gets home from school and her mom says she doesnt have my number. now, i had my wife email all of this to the lawyer and we have yet to hear from her. its been a few days, and she's thinking that maybe the lawyer is on vacation due to the holiday... not only am i upset about this, but my wife and i both told the ex that there is well over a FOOT of snow on the ground where we live, daughter will need boots and appropriate clothing. she sent her with filthy canvas shoes, t-shirts, 3 pairs of underpants (for an 8 day stay!!!) and no gloves. the jacket i bought her has a hood, so i want's really worried about that. she even packed her a tank-top night gown. i had my wife take photos of the clothes the ex packed and of the snow outside. i even measured its depth one day - between 14 and 16 inches in the front yard alone. i owe the lawyer over $2100 and was briefly laid off. i told her about it and made a payment that fit my budget at that time. we are still having financial difficulites. my wife is looking for a job. we have found a babysitter for our toddler, and i am still looking for a job, just in case i get laid off again. could she be ignoring me and this case because of the money owed? my daugher needs to be living with me. the judge made the ex pay $2,000 to move to TN as a bond because she doesn't follow the court orders. what chance would i have of  pursuing the matter in my own hands at this point, without the lawyer? i have documented proof; photos of clohtes, her brown teeth (mom doesnt make her brush so her new adult teeth are a nice shade of brown), the flimsy shoes, the snow, things daughter has said to me and my wife during the stay. my wife's best friend sent an email to the lawyer regarding a converstaion my daughter had with her. it was about when her mom's car broke down in KY and she said they got picked up by some woman she didn't know on the highway and was taken somewhere that wasnt to fix the car. the strange woman didn't know anything about cars. my daughter and her half brother said they were hungry so the mom took them to burger king where the 3 year old half brother hit his head and started to bleed. my daughter was upset by this and kept saying "there was blood everywhere" and her mom wouldn't let them call an ambulance but took free ice cream for the kids instead. i'm losing my mind here. i'm afraid for my daughter. she isnt being taken care of and no one is listening to me. what do i do?? what chance do i have?? can anyone help???

my ex has been doing the same thing for  6 years and the friend of the court couldnt care less. i have a stable home, stable job, been married a few years now, and still, they don't care. if you can figure out anything, i'd like to know too man! : )

dude, i don't know. i'm in a similar situation. my ex girlfriend took our daughter from MI to TN and rarely complies with the latest court order that said she could move, provided she obey these rules. the court doesn't care. my kid is being elimnated from my life, i see her 3 times a YEAR. i used to see her all the fricking time. like you, my ex cant handle that i have a wife that isnt her. i'm trying to figure out the sigining over rights thing too. i got laid off not that long ago, then rehired. but my wife  and i have a bucket load of bills (mostly legal thanks to the ex) and cant afford to pay cs on a kid we dont get to see. oh, and when we do get to see her, mommy dearest has been spending the cs on herself and her other child that isnt mine.

fill out the form to lower you child support. my ex is trying like heck to eliminate me from my daughter's life just because she (the ex) doesn't like my wife and feels threatened by her bc she knows how to be a good mother.

i don't know if she can. depends on your state. keep EVERY receipt you have for what you buy for your child, no matter how much it costs. good luck!!