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My husband's ex (never married) moved out of state to Ohio approximately a year ago.  They have a parenting plan, joint custody, where he gets her for every other thanksgiving, a week at Christmas, longer visits in the summer.  His 6 year old daughter has flown here about three times using the unaccompanied minor program with the airlines.  We pay for all of the plane tickets and one time she and her husband had to pay the minor fee and they flipped out.  There is nothing in the parenting plan to outline how transportation is paid for.  Anyway, we had purchased his daughter's ticket for the Christmas visit this year in October/November.  When the daughter flew back to Ohio after Thanksgiving the mother and her husband were late to the airport to pick up the young girl.  The birth mother then got angry at us and decided it was no longer safe for the daughter to fly alone unless one of us flew with her.  We basically can not afford this, we pay at least $1,500 a year in tickets alone and then pay $400 a month for child support.  The mother is now saying she will not send the daughter for Christmas unless we fly with her.  Besides the fact that we can't afford it, there are no seats left on her flight.  What are we supposed to do?  We have tried to contact the person who was un charge of their parenting plan and she says there is nothing we can do to make her come out here.  We don't want to go to court because we don't want to make the daughter have to deal with legal proceedings and having her parents fighting.  We want the best and easiest thing for the daughter, but are tired of being stepped on by the mother - she has pulled various stunts like this in the past.  We aren't interested in causing huge problems, we are actually fine with paying for the tickets (even though we didn't move away) we just can't afford to keep catering to her whims.  Do we have any rights?  What do we do if she doesn't send the daughter?  I want to make sure we follow everything right according to law.  Thank you for your help

My husband's ex (never married) lives in a different state and has custody of his daughter who is 6 years old.  We pay for all of the plane tickets and unnacompanied minors fees as well as $400 child support every month.  She has recently told us that she will not send the daughter out unless one of us flies with her the whole time - basically meaning we have to buy another plane ticket.  She is the one that moved, yet she tells us that it is all our responsibility - her and her husband do not have to pay any of the costs associated with travel and are now threatening to not let us see her unless we buy another ticket.  Is this legal?  Do we have any rights?  Can we demand they start paying for some of the transportation costs?  We are stressing out becuase we have already purchased her tickets for Christmas and have less than a month to get this straightened out - is there anything we can do?