Quote from: Kitty C. on Oct 20, 2012, 04:38:08 PM
You might want to check your CO again, but in most custody orders, birthdays and holidays trump regular visitation. Now, if this is Dad's weekend, but you still get child for so many hours on his birthday, then you should go P/U the child at the time the CO allows you to.
Otherwise, if it's Dad's time, then child does NOT have a say in who he wants to be with or why.
CO doesn't state any certain time that I get child for birthday, just says my year for birthday is 2012. This is where the issue comes in to play. I've offered dad time during the day to spend with child in place of the time child would be with me during haunted house/birthday.
As stated in earlier reply dad doesn't really want anything to do with child just wants to make life difficult for child & myself b/c dad knows child will be upset & I will be the one who has to deal with it (originally). Dad has control/anger issues & by making child upset, child would be going to his house with attitude & a nasty encounter will take place for the whole weekend. Dad even told me "Don't tell ........ I won't let her go to haunted house for birthday. B/c if you do then she will know that it was me that wouldn't let her go."