I have taken the plunge and filed for custody of 10 yr old son and contempt of court against ex. She will be served Friday right after I pick up son for the weekend.
I am stressing very bad over what to tell my son, or even if to tell him anything at all. My top priority is HIM, ALWAYS! I do not want him to have to deal with these pressures. That is the main reason I decided to go through the ridiculous court system again, to try to give him a little relief from her.
OK, I'll try to explain as briefly as possible. Divorced when son was 5, I got custody. 2 yrs later ex won custody. Although she used every sick tactic known to mankind, the judged ruled that I was a "fine father and good provider". But because I work for a living, and she & new husband stay home & live off government, son is better off with her instead of in daycare, and I got enlarged visitation.
--Fast forward 3 yrs to today--
Ex has tried relentlessly to erode mine and son's relationship and time together (PAS all the way). I have been silent and done nothing, thinking that it would be less stressful to our son and at least he could have peace of mind while at my house. As soon as he is returned to her Sunday, she will make him read all the legal paperwork and make sure he understands everything that his Daddy is trying to do to them (that is small stuff for her!).
I am agonizing about what he will be subjected to between now and the time we actually go to court (about 6 months).
Should I have a talk with him about this?
If I do, What should I say? Will I be causing the same anxieties in him that his mother does?
If I don't, Will be completely unprepared for his mother's reactions? And will he have nothing to base his opinions on except the garbage she is feeding him?
Wow! If I'm having such a hard time dealing with this, imagine what it must be like for a 10 yr old!!?? I have got to make the right choices for his sake!
Any help will be greatly appreciated!
I am stressing very bad over what to tell my son, or even if to tell him anything at all. My top priority is HIM, ALWAYS! I do not want him to have to deal with these pressures. That is the main reason I decided to go through the ridiculous court system again, to try to give him a little relief from her.
OK, I'll try to explain as briefly as possible. Divorced when son was 5, I got custody. 2 yrs later ex won custody. Although she used every sick tactic known to mankind, the judged ruled that I was a "fine father and good provider". But because I work for a living, and she & new husband stay home & live off government, son is better off with her instead of in daycare, and I got enlarged visitation.
--Fast forward 3 yrs to today--
Ex has tried relentlessly to erode mine and son's relationship and time together (PAS all the way). I have been silent and done nothing, thinking that it would be less stressful to our son and at least he could have peace of mind while at my house. As soon as he is returned to her Sunday, she will make him read all the legal paperwork and make sure he understands everything that his Daddy is trying to do to them (that is small stuff for her!).
I am agonizing about what he will be subjected to between now and the time we actually go to court (about 6 months).
Should I have a talk with him about this?
If I do, What should I say? Will I be causing the same anxieties in him that his mother does?
If I don't, Will be completely unprepared for his mother's reactions? And will he have nothing to base his opinions on except the garbage she is feeding him?
Wow! If I'm having such a hard time dealing with this, imagine what it must be like for a 10 yr old!!?? I have got to make the right choices for his sake!
Any help will be greatly appreciated!