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I can't help much but have you had a modification since your income went down? Is that what happened?

I do know that the courts are never fair and as far as I have ever seen they are never for the fathers side. They will just tell you to get another job to help pay for the child but rarley even attempt to tell the mom to get a better job to help support her child.

I thought that the wife could not take more then 50% of your income? I might not be even close to right with this. I'd say talk to the child support bearue and see what they say.

All we are doing here is counting the days until the evil witch is a part of our past. One year and 7 months to go. Then I will send her the last red penny she will ever touch that we have worked for.

I'm sure our public officials who have gone through divorce find ways around paying every last dime to the ex but when it comes to the middle class people like us...were stuck!

Hey our cs ends in Sept of  2005 too. :)

Maybe we could get together and have a party. We will be able to drive my new car that I am buying the day this crap is over. I have an 11 year old van that has to last until then because we can't afford two car payments now. The evil ex buys a new car every three years and bought her last one last summer so I figure this will be her last new car.

We are only slightly worried that sd will flunk this year of home schooling and we will have to pay for another year if she chooses to attend school until she turns 19. Dh says she's such a waste that he can't imagine her going another year in public school where everyone dislikes her. She's evil just like her mom and it's not just me...she has no friends and her mom pulled her out of school to home school her and make it easier for her. Yeah right.

Boy your scaring me. I never even thought of the ex taking us back for doctor bills she never gave us. It seems that would be illegal. I mean you can't pay a bill you never knew about.

We have not seen sd in 8 years (her mom is a PAS pro) and we have not gotten a doctor bill in 9 years. She said it is none of our business what happens with sd and she will pay the bills. If she handed them all over at once we would go broke! She's evil too and I could see this happening if she thought it would work and she would get a nice fat check.

This story is sad but true. My sd is 16 and was three when dh and her mother were divorced because the ex was having an affair with a friend and was  "in love " with him.

Now at 16 sd "remembers" her dad never being there for her when she was 3 and how sad her mom always was and that her dad hired people to kill her moms boyfriend (now step dad) even though these things never happened and were only created in the ex's mind and psychotic imagination. :(  

This child has been filled with a life time of lies and she believes the one person who is suppossed to love and be honest with her...her mother. Children are used so much by parents to get even and it's just too sad. There is nothing you can do because the more you tell your child that it's not true the more the bio hag tells them your just trying to make yourself look innocent when you really are.

It is a lose lose situation if you have a crazy ex to deal with and they have custody of the child.

If it were signed bleachedblondho I'd swear it was written by my dh's ex. This woman needs some serious help.

Well after 13 years of this woman I just ignore her. It's easy for us because she has kept my sd from us since she was 9 and acted like a total shrew because she hated dh enough to find a boyfriend while they were married and leave dh for him but hated me for dating and marrying dh ?? The woman is psycho and needs serious mental help.

I see her only when we have school functions for our 10 year olds (lucky us we had babies only three days apart) and other then that I pretend she never has existed. She's not the kind of woman I'd want to be around unless I had to.

I don't really have any advice on this (the ex in our situation was always jealous as heck when dh and I had babies (we had four together) and it about drove her crazy when she would find out about another little one on the way even though she divorced dh for her current dh. This woman is a total nut job.

I hope she lets sd go and it is a great experience for both of you and a really big CONGRATS!! on the new baby. :)

Just remember step moms have to have big sholders. We carry the load for everything that goes wrong, every mistake the bio parents make and don't want to lay claim too (yes even the things my dh did wrong) and there usually is no way to make a child understand without making yourself look bad.

I know it's stressful but you know your a good person. Bm can say anything about you she wants and it's really gonna hurt and it may take years and years before your ss learns just how much you love him but it will happen.

My sd thinks I'm evil because I was the only person to disapline her and like your bm ours always brain washed the child that we did everything to be mean to her and we didn't love her. Finally she took the child away from us and it was hard. Now I can kick myself for letting her have her way and keep the child when we have rights but I also know that one day this girl will come back to us and understand that we love her.

Kids are kids...they learn what they are taught from people they "think" love them the most and are looking out for their best interest.

Keep doing what your doing and after a while ss will see for himself. If she keeps talking bad about you and you just keep quiet your the bigger person. Maybe thats the purpose for all of this, to make you look better in the end even though it really hurts right now.

Best of luck. I would just tell ss that you love him and wouldn't ever do anything to hurt him. If his mom shaved his head that was her option as his mom but you and he both know that his hair was fine.

 I guess I'm not going to be much help. My sd ran both her mom's and dh's house until I came along. She was spoiled rotten and hated anyone telling her what to do. Once I was in the picture she didn't get her royal butt kissed and she quit coming with us. It's sad but true,if she couldn't rule the rooste she just didn't want to be here.

Now she's 17 and the ex has pulled her from school  (she was flunking and having a lot of disalpine problems....imagine that). She stays out all night long and the ex never lifts a finger. She has lost all control.

I can't be much help but I know what your going through. It was a long hard road and it's much harder for the child who's parents won't be parents like they are suppossed to be.

One year,one month and three days!! :) Then all the money we make will be OURS for the first time since we were married. I can't wait! Step daughter turns 18 on Sept 1st and so help me we are going to do everything in our power to end any and all payments asap!

Then mama can figure how where her next meal ticket will be coming from. Actually from what I hear her new dh is getting pretty tired of her so maybe she'll leave him and get support for another 8 years for the child she had with him.

I met dh when the monster was 4 years old and I never thought it would go so fast...once we quit talking to the psyco time has passed. When she thought she still had control of my dh time just drug by. Now were happy and in another year we'll be even happier.