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in the articles archive is a letter of intention for visitation start  using it every time and a denial letter IF she is late having him to you.. stating hours to exchange send everything certified return reciept... that way you have proof...


court order says she drops of at your home than write in there .. per our order for visitation...paragraph **** ... qoute it word for word ...I would like for you to have him available to my home at 9am date he will be available (per court order) to be picked up sunday date and time...


do that for 6 months ... then if things are no better file a MTA... which you could do now stating he is now in school and both yopu and him would like more time ... ask for friday after school till monday AM .. this will give you a chance to be involved in school too.

may I ask what the court order says in regards to new years day?

If nothing is mentioned offer to split the day in half

try peanutsdad's suggestion on the ingredients and try nursoy.. and get a second opinion .. my oldest daughter had the worst problems with formula projectile vomiting the works.. we did not figure out the problem till she was 4 months.


You said you cannot afford the formula IF you found one that could be tolerated.. There is a program called WIC  women infants and children, IF you live with your parents their income is not counted JUST yours .. If you are going to school you WILL qualify... also I am a registered child care provider for the state and an emergancy intake foster care worker.. so I know a little about that area.. and I will tell you they have a daycare program that will help offset day care costs while you go to school.. they will not pay all but some ..

I am a mother of 3 and a full time stepmoinster to 2.. It is hard when they go to visit you miss them terribly, BUT he does too and he has to be away from the baby all week.. they NEED to bond more than a few hours every few days , and with school around the corner that is NOT going to work anyway.. at the same time its hard giving up all weekend every weekend but still they need time too... at 4 months its not a matter of getting used to the visits.


Well the baby is 4 months old now correct? so you could implement with a formula like isomil, or another non milk based formula like augmentin... there are options.. my daughetr was allergic to formula too ( milk based) so they switched her and she did fine.

Why not give him Friday at 6pm- Saturday at 6pm .. I know its hard the baby is young and you are uncomfortable with her being away from you so young believe me we all feel it .... But honestly ask yourself .. IF you were still together would you deny him the right to get up and feed the baby in the middle of the night? think about how much you love her and then tell yourself he loves her just as much, and misses out on these moments....

and dont be afraid to call 50 times .. as a matter of fact let him know IF you come to agree to this it will take adjusting and you will probably bug him to death.. and keep supporting him .. be there if he has a question your child will be a better person for it in the long run...

good luck to you

Our stories are so similar it is scarey, I have been dealing with the PBFH for 4 years now almost 5.. I have learned alot along the way...

download modemspy on your computer make sure the legal disclaimer is set on it. and set it to record ALL incoming and out going calls..

keep a journal of events, and when dealing with her never speak in person email it or send it certified return reciept..

she is setting him up to drive all the time she is gonna say he agreed to do it and since he has been doing it they will believe her... SO get DH to shoot off a letter stating she is not following agreement and should she refuse to meet again he will be filing a show cause Monday morning after for not abiding order and denial of visitation.. send cerified return reciept CC her attny, and yours...

every time she is late shoot off a letter every time its denied shoot off a letter..

the reciept idea is excellent I never thought of that.

and for all of you dealing with the clothes issue start taking pictures I invested in a time date stamp camera, take pictures of their socks caked in dirt of them filthy it PROVES she is not properly caring for them, rashes bruises cuts yup I have a huge collection ( may be why DH is now the CP)   I took notice of all those who made note to me they saw it.. teachers daycares etc..

the only way to change it is to prove that it is happening.

we have court today..on this matter .

I am simply asking for any thing law wise.... that might be helpful in backing me up ..according to what I have found the code says we are to "make them available" for visitation..

I have a lot of documentation on the case.. we shall see what happens today....... thanks anyway

OK We have custody mom has visitation, Dad works so judge has obligated me to transport children to halfway which I was ok with but she is always late 45min to 1 hour and it is strongly affecting my ex's visits with his kids SO...

My ex and I discussed it and he said that although I am legally obligated to make them available and he understands that our children should not play a factor .. but by obligating me he feels our children should become a factor since it is affecting our kids as well...

He suggested asking that she start picking up again at house and that he do the same .. but I cannot find anything that will help in presenting this to judge on Monday any thoughts would be helpful.

PS I am in Virginia

http://www.pimall.com/nais/n.tel.tape.law.html

this should help ...

http://www.modemspy.com/en/index.php


what state are you in and I will look to see what the rules are for you there.

You cannot deny her the access and look good believe me I know ... but If I were you I would print out every last email and get MODEMSPY they have a 30 day trial it logs and records every call coming in AND keeps a log of when and how long you can save to your harddrive and burn ointo a CD and take it to court as well It also says akll cvalls incoming are recorded and logged by modemspy so her speaking after  that says that she agrees to it and  then you have proof for court or at very least she lightens up on the phone.