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There are no court orders in place at the moment. 

The G.A.L performed his investigation and is suggesting Anger management along with supervised visits and only two weeks a summer and no holidays, birthdays, what-have-you.  I will be doing the anger management ASAP as I have to pay out of pocket and now have the money to do so, even though I firmly believe I shouldn't have too. 

As for lifestyle...  Heterosexual. All the way. 

Since I have equal rights as a parent still since there is no PP in place (Judge was waiting on the GAL) and I haven't been able to get down to her county, is there anything I can do to ensure that I talk with my kids, other than contact them at my parents place?  She refuses too answer my calls....

I don't like the way the court is handling things, it feels as if the cards are stacked against me, even with the evidence I have....

I have an update for everyone...  It's not good.... 

Well, after losing my job in December '11 I haven't been able to afford to make the 4.5 hour drive and therefore everything has stalled.  In this time, the RO she had filed against was overturned and the judge had sternly warned her about not allowing me contact....

I have had no contact with my kids because she would not allow it.  She dropped the kids off at MY parents for the summer and told MY mother that if I talked with them, she was going to hold me in contempt...  Hard to do without an RO in place..  Then she said that if I talked with them, that they would never see the kids again.I have been talking with my kids and will continue too.  There are no laws stating I can't, nor are their court orders saying I can't.  She is going to pick up the kids this weekend and has intentions to move and will not tell anyone where...  I have a court date set now that I have steady full time employment and will be taking in EVERYTHING that my parents have experienced and all my experiences too....

Wish my luck folks as I still can't afford an attorney.....

As for FB, they are all blocked.  I found another page from the ex and blocked it too.  My posts are never publicly available, and I have blocked a few friends of ours who I felt were suspicious.  There is another right now that I am watching very closely as it was listed that said person was living with her....  Hmmm.... 

I haven't said anything publicly as I am better than that.   My profile is also locked down too.  No posts or pictures are public....

I'm going to ask the court that she seek counseling with a counselor different than that which she has used.  I also will be asking the court to order her to pay as I can't afford to. This of course is at a later date.  Kill with kindness...

WA state does have Anti-harassment laws and protection orders.  Thats how I got the first one instated, before the judge here overruled it.  Speaking of the judge here....  Holy moly...  BAD judgement skills and EVEN WORSE treatment of people.  Said judge has multiple complaints against them....(Yes, I researched)

I'll get the classes done, but that just makes me feel even more victimized by her and her family.  This has been ongoing since I left her earlier this year.  So far I've had three Protection orders filed (two from me) and the latest one is holding as far as I know (meaning no order for dismissal).  Unfortunately it was her Ex Parte order (filed when I had the kids on an arranged summer visit before the Parenting Plan was in effect) that is being used here.

At least the judge saw the DV between her and I. She was physically violent with me the night I left.  She was also very manipulative throughout the nearly ten years we were married.

I've been using fathersandfamilies.org as a research tool and have been able to use it to defend myself against her allegations up to this point.  However I can't go any farther other than using her and her families threats on my FB page....

The guardian is done with the case when his report is in.

I feel the parental alienation is in fact happening.  My Kids are 8 and 5.  My ex also used her family as her references who have posted threats and other disparaging comments in the past.  I have supplied the courts with those documents. 

My personal feeling is that my fate was decided before I even got a chance to speak. 

48 hours a month and two weeks for the summer.  That's it...  I'm not happy with it and will be going for a modification.  Because of my ex's family and their lies, I have to do a minimum of ten hours anger management as well.  I will be asking the court for her to pay the fees for the counseling and that she seek counseling herself with a different counselor than she used already....

I will say that my sexual preference is listed at the very top of the report, as is my place of living, and my employment, that to me speaks of then using my housing and lifestyle against me and employment as well, which is discrimination.  My girlfriend and I are in a monogamous relationship and have been from the start.  If they use that against me, I will be bringing that up in further court cases or putting in a motion for moving the case to a different county all together.

 

Yep, I'm looking for an advocate. 

My ex-wife has placed false accusations and now I need help in a bad way.

I left her in February of 2011 and have filed for Protection orders, each has been seen in court and overturned.  She has stalked me and my girlfriend, in fact she showed up at our door!  She filed for an Ex Parte order to get the kids back and has refused to allow contact with my kids when I first left her.  she and her family have posted threats and disparaging remarks on social media sites and claims that I have been making them. 

Judges refuse to see the DV and I need help!  My kids have been taken from me and she is using the legal system to do it! 

If anyone can help me, please do.  I have gotten help from C.L.E.A.R. legal and now need an attorney who sit on the stand with me.

Well, where too start...

I guess a quick run down would be best...

I left an abusive relationship in Feb of 2011, I had applied for a Protection after protection order from my abusive ex-wife, now 9 months later, we are in the custody phase. 

From Feb to August of this year, my ex kept my children from me.  I was not allowed to see them, if I called, she would hang up, when I did talk too them, they sounded coached and I could whispers in the background before my kids spoke. 

We had GAL appointed to our case and thru her manipulation and use of her family, I now have very little visitation time.  She has claimed that I have posted disparaging comments on social media sites and that i have abused my children.  I had my kids briefly earlier this year in which she got a judge too sign an Ex Parte order to get them back, all the while we had police at our apartment each week, which is now going to cause us too loser our home.

The GAL report is full of false information and she used her family to manipulate the findings.  I have hard copies of the their comments from the social media website and this doesn't seem to make a difference.  I have her and her family blocked, so they have no access anyway.

If anyone here has advice or knows of an attorney in Whatcom County, WA that is willing to help me Pro Bono, please let me know.  I'm now at the point where I can't go any further without help.  My kids are being taken from me by her using the legal system to get her way and the state of Washington refuses to do anything about it.