Article, Gender bias by Carey Roberts

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http://www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive/r/roberts/2004/roberts121504.htm

Long Live the Matriarchy!

December 15, 2004

by Carey Roberts

Feminists possess an uncanny ability to work both sides of an issue. Take
motherhood, for instance.

For years, the Sisterhood lectured us how tedious and thankless it was to
be ?just? a mother. It stifled women?s individuality and put a cramp in
their career aspirations. Oh dear.

But it wasn?t enough to just lament the demands of motherhood. Someone had
to be blamed. And sure enough that ?someone? was the patriarchy.

In her 1986 feminist classic Of Woman Born, Adrienne Rich made the claim
that the ?patriarchy could not survive without motherhood.? Yes, that?s
what she really wrote. According to Ms. Rich, it wasn?t enough for women
to rule the world by rocking the cradle ? women should also aspire to run
the world by rocking the levers of political power.

But if moms were going to break through the Glass Ceiling, who was going
to mind the kids? So wives began to coax and plead with their primary
breadwinners to become involved dads. Men began to attend Lamaze classes,
push baby strollers, and burp junior.

And lo, dads discovered the Joy of Parenting.

But there was still a tiny fly in the ointment ? the sticky issue of which
parent would gain custody of the kids in the unfortunate event of divorce.
Knowing that half of all marriages fall apart, this is hardly an issue
that should be relegated to the divorce lawyers.

In the past, custody was routinely awarded to the mother on the basis of
the ?best interests of the child? doctrine. But like Robin Williams of
Mrs. Doubtfire fame, divorced dads said that argument was deeply flawed.

They pointed to a growing body of research which showed that continued
involvement of the father was essential for a child?s welfare. For
example, the March 2002 issue of the Journal of Family Psychology featured
an article by Dr. Robert Bauserman, who reviewed 33 studies on this
critical topic. He reached this reassuring conclusion: Despite the
divorce, children enjoyed better family relationships, self-esteem, and
emotional adjustment when dads were allowed to remain involved in the
kids? lives.

So child advocates began to push the idea of equal parenting. That
approach made sense because it would bypass the acrimony surrounding
custody battles.

Looking back, it seemed like such a great idea: Women would be freed from
the drudgery of full-time mothering, dads could stay in the picture, and
kids would maintain their relationships with both parents. A winning
proposition for all ? who could argue with that?

But in one of those strange twists of history, the feminist establishment
did an abrupt about-face. All across the United States, local chapters of
the National Organization for Women came out in opposition to equal
parenting.

For years women had been bewailing the monotony of motherhood. Now those
same women were arguing against the common-sense notion of keeping dads
involved, thus relieving some of the pressures on working moms.

How could this possibly happen? Because in the Matriarchy, mothers enjoy
the singular authority to make decisions about their children. In other
words, Mothers Rule. And the mendacious matrons at the N.O.W. saw joint
custody as usurping that prerogative.

I have known some of these fathers who have been evicted from their
children?s lives. I have felt their heartbreak, their profound sense of
betrayal.

But these dads would not be deterred. They began to organize, they wrote
letters, they lobbied their legislators.

But progress was slow. Groups like the National Association for Counsel of
Children came out opposed to equal parenting. Why? Because its members
makes their money by milking long, drawn-out custody disputes, which can
run $100,000 in legal fees.

So recently fathers? groups in 41 states began to file class action
lawsuits [//www.indianacrc.org/assocsites.html]. The claims argued that
divorced fathers and mothers should be assumed to be equally fit parents ?
what is called a legal presumption of joint custody.

Until the essential role of fathers is recognized and antiquated laws are
changed, millions of American children will be deprived of the steady hand
of a loving father. Those children will go to bed at night, wondering when
they will be able to see their daddy.

That's the Matriarchy at work.


Carey Roberts is a researcher and consultant who tracks gender bias in the
mainstream media.
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"Children learn what they live"

[joni]

Great job of hitting the nail on the head of the hypocracy of sole custody.

[Brent]

>But in one of those strange twists of history, the feminist
>establishment did an abrupt about-face. All across the
>United States, local chapters of  the National Organization
>for Women came out in opposition to equal parenting.

Yes, this is a classic case of the maggots at NOW being willing to lie, cheat, and steal to get what they want. I'm so sick of these gender-biased pukebags.