Rant

[jilly]

Last year DH was kept informed of school activities, copied on everything and was informed about SDs behavior problems in school. Her 1st Grade teacher was awesome! This year it's been like pulling teeth.  We're lucky to get what little bit we do. It's apparent from the 2 mid-term progress reports and the one (first) report card we've received that SD is having extreme behavior problems at school. Has DH been informed or been asked for his assistance in this? HELL NO!
So...I get home from work yesterday and there's one of the SASEs DH provided to the teacher. Open it up and what do you think is in there? It's a form that the teacher wants DH to complete and send back ASAP. What is this form you ask? It's called Connes' Parent Rating Scale - Revised (L) by C. Keith Conners, Ph.D.  What is the purpose of this form you ask?  Why it's to rate a "number of common problems that children have"! Such as: angry and resentful, has no friends, loses friends quickly, does not seem to listen to what is being said to him/her, etc. You get the picture.  There is also a photocopy of a letter that was sent to DH's ex regarding a meeting the teacher had with the Student Services Management Team abou SD and that they are going to meet in 4 weeks to see what else can be done to make school a positive learning experience for SD. THEN the teacher puts a post-it note on this letter addressed to DH stating that letter and questionnaire was sent to the ex and that they would like his input and to fill it out and return it ASAP.  Can I tell you just how pissed off this makes me??? Now that things seem to be going down the crapper with this child NOW they decide "hey...we might want to include her Father in this!"  Freakin morons.  Don't get me wrong...DH will fill out the questionnaire and return it but he'll also be enclosing a letter of his own letting the teacher know just how he feels about the situation...i.e. he expects more cooperation from her in the future in providing him with copies of EVERYTHING that gets sent to the ex's house. ARRGGGHHH..these people drive me nuts!! LOL

On a side note...DH's ex and I had to sit together last Saturday while SD was cheerleading at a Youth Basketball game at the YMCA. (I was taking SD Christmas shopping for a present for her Daddy and little sister).  During the course of our conversation she let me know that SD was now involved with a group at school that is for children whose parents are going through a divorce. (Ex and SF have separated and SD is taking it pretty hard that her Mommy and "Daddy" aren't together. That's a whole other rant!).  The school counselor is also going to be seeing SD one-on-one in addition to seeing her as part of the group.  Ex has also scheduled an appointment with a therapist through the hospital where she works. I told her that I hoped that she had also provided contact information for me and DH in case anyone wanted to talk to us or get us involved since SD probably has issues regarding her and DH as well as her and SF.  She said "Oh yeah! Sure!" But I could tell the thought never entered her mind. So, I'm wondering if the form DH just received is a result of that conversation or if it's because of the FERPA letter in SDs school file.  Things that make you go hmmmmm.  LOL